Father/Stepfather walk bride down aisle?

Question

I was trying to decide what to do about the father/stepfather dilemna when it come to walking the bride down the aisle. I think I would like to have one walk me halfway down, and then the other walk me the rest of the way. I've read that you can have the father walk you the first half and the stepfather walk you the 2nd half...which doesn't make sense to me. Does it matter who walks you down first?

And my biggest question...what does the first person do once they have handed you to the next person? I've read that doing this isn't common anymore because you're kind of abandoning someone. I thought of maybe letting him continue to the front before we walked the 2nd half of the way. Any ideas?

Answer 1

i would do step the n real father. Also have the step just walk behind or pick someone up like your sis or friend when you get half way down so they dont look silly walking by themselves

Answer 2

if you are going to do this, then you should have your step-father walk you down half way then have your father hand you over to your husband. He is your natural father so he should have the honor of giving you finally away.

May I also suggest that you have both of them walk you down together. I have been to weddings where both the mother and the father walk the bride down the aisle so this will work for a father/step-father situation also.

Answer 3

I think it would be nice for them both to walk you the whole way down especially if they both have been influencial in your life. Walking your daughter (or stepdaughter) down the isle is prob the proudest moment for a father or stepfather.. Your stepdad will be so honored if you ask him to assist your father in walking you the whole down and giving you away just like he has in raising you. But of course its your wedding and you should do what ever you want. Keeping in mind that the wedding day is special not only for the bride and groom but for the parents as well.

Congrats and Good Luck

Answer 4

This isn't going to easy. If your step father is the person who stayed up nights with you when you were sick, cheered you on in sports or something else you were interested in, who taught you to drive, then he IS your father and you should ask him.

If he was active but your real dad was also active and did all those things as well, then I would hope that your step father would be gracious enough to back off and let your father walk his daughter down the isle.

If everyone gets along, and it sounds like they might, why not just make the isle alittle bigger and have both of them walk you.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I was just talking to my co-worker about this! In her case her biological dad started her walking down the aisle then gave her to her step dad for the rest of the way was symbolic because her biological dad brought her into the world. And at some point in her life her step-dad came into the picture and started to help raise her. That hand off in the middle of the aisle was sort of symbolic of what happened during her childhood. Her dad just followed behind the two up the aisle and shook hands with everyone and kissed her also "giving her away" so to speak. Again symbolic of how he was still a part of her life, so it wasn't so much like she was abandoning him half way.

My friend who was just married last didn't feel so close to her dad that she needed him to walk her down the aisle. He went down first alone after his parents and then the rest of the bridal party. It sort of looked strange because he was alone and we all knew it was her dad.

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with both men walking down the isle. When I got married my real father (the donor)on the left, an my stepfather who raised me walked me down the isle on the right side an when the preacher asked who shall give this bride away they both said we do. An if one is fussing cause of the other one, tell them well if I can't have both I want have neither. That should shut them up! Cause its your day not there's. HAVE FUN

Answer 7

As a man, I would be damned if some other man thinks he is going to give my baby girl away at her wedding. Your stepfather may have helped raise you but he is not your blood. Unless your father hasn't been in your life since the divorce it is your fathers right to be the one to walk you down the isle, if your stepfather didn't have any daughters then that is unfortunately his lose...that he won't be able to do that, but your father did and as I said he earned the right and privilege, to give HIS daughter away. No matter what you'll always be his baby girl...sorry that's just how I feel about it.

Answer 8

Let both Dad/Stepdad walk u down the aisle. I've heard of this before. But if u feel that os impossible,I'm sure one would understand. And for the giving away part and u have both parents walk u down the aisle they both can you away. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Actually it would be great to have one walk on each side. If you feel this is to much then have your step father walk you down but have your father waiting at the front. You take his arm when you get to him and he will stand up there with you and give you away.

Find out what you fathers opinion is. He may have a good idea. He may tell you what he wants to do.

Answer 10

Your wedding, your way. My brother's walking me to my son. My son's walking me to my husband to be (the idea: from the 1st man in my life to the second to the last). I haven't thought about what to do with my brother yet, but not stressed about it at all. If your father & step-father mean that much to you and they get along-You're blessed-GO WITH IT! Once you've made the decision to do it, everything will fall into place. Don't worry about what's common, uncommon or what people will think. Focus on how happy you're gonna be, both dads, both moms, and the look on your future hubby's face when he see's you for the first time in that dress! Enjoy your day, enjoy your dads, enjoy your man, enjoy your marriage. Congrats & Good Luck!