I am almost 33 wks pregnant. I'm not fat at all. I've gained a total of 6 pounds so far. According to my doctor every thing is fine. So thats not my concern. But I bowl on friday nights and there is a girl that bowls that I use to work with. She's hateful and loves to "pick" on others or try to make their life misserable just because she is miserable. How can I tactfuly deal with her loudly announcing "Just look for the girl with big boobs and that is fat?" She doesn't seem to care when she hurts someones feelings. She does this to everyone. She seriously just thinks she's being cute and funny. I don't want to be ugly like that. So how can I shut her up but still be nice about it. Thanks for your comments and help.
2006-09-15 17:21:57 · 22 answers · asked by Amber 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The next time she points you out " take a bow" . She will look the fool as I,m sure everyone can see that your pregnant and not fat. Make her rude comments your moments to shine and "take a bow" all the while holding your baby (tummy) and smiling like your the beauty queen.
She aint nothen but a sad person with a big mouth and people see that.
2006-09-15 17:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could ignore her.
Or you could say 'Yes, I did gain some weight. But it's in the right places and I gained a lot of happiness, too. That's the difference between you and me!'
Say it with a smile and I'd think it will make you feel pretty good. And for you pretty soon that "ooh I look fat"-look will change to "ooh I'm pregnant"-look. And don't forget you'll loose a lot of weight in just a few hours when baby is born and if you breastfeed you'll loose all your "babyfat" and then some after a while. And you still can eat whatever you want (except for the things that cause baby gas).
Good luck and be happy!!! You got a little miracle inside you!
2006-09-15 17:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by heidansim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously insecure and needs to have all the attention on her. How sad for her!!!
If she announces loudly that you are fat---you can say with a HUGE smile on your face, "Yes, the PREGNANT LADY is up next. I suggest you watch out!" Then, let it go. Say nothing more. She says these things to watch people get upset--she gets off on that. If you ignroe her immature behavior and don't sink to her level, she will get bored and move on. If she continues to call you fat, you simply repeat the phrase back by using PREGNANT.
For instant, she says, "Here comes the fat one." You SMILE (smiling is key here) and agree by saying, "Yes here comes the PREGNANT one." Just keep repeating what she says but saying pregnant as well and smile and move on. People will catch on to what is going on and you won't have to make a scene about it--because that is what she wants. Beat her at her own game. She won't win.
2006-09-15 18:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more worried about only having gained 6 pounds at 33 weeks!
That's not right honey, you should be up about 25 lbs. 6 pounds doesn't even cover the fluid.
As for this dippy girl -being pregnant has benefits, one of them is being able to fly off the handle and scream at idiots and then blame it on 'hormones'.
Cuz gee, everyone knows pregnant women are 'emotional'.
Let'er rip!
2006-09-15 18:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just turn it on back at her with a smile. Thank her for commenting, in a nice smiley voice. Ask her what you would all do to without her to pick out your bad points and then laugh.
It diffuses the situation whilst letting her know that you are way unimpressed with her.
Practise it in front of a mirror so that it sounds natural when the time comes to say it.
Snide only works for her because you all let it.A couple of smiling replies from you and others and she will start to change her tactics.
2006-09-15 17:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Christine H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy no matter how much weight you gain makes a lot of women feel fat, unsexy, and just unattractive. I was a chubby girl to start with when I had my two boys people used to ask me if I was having a litter, or if I had three or four in there...people can be such *******. Ignore her, sounds like it wouldn't matter to her what you had going on in life she would find something to bully you about. Some people are just like that. When you have kids so many people throw in their two cents on every thing you do. It stinks and some times it makes you feel really bad about yourself or who you are. Try not to let it. Just know that soon you will have a beautiful baby to cuddle and she will have her hate to hug her. Good luck with your baby!
2006-09-15 17:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I would personally take the bowling ball and beat her in her head with it! But I have a temper..lol. Seriously, you can try and be nice to get her to quit but if she's being mean the way she is, its very unlikely that she will stop. The best you can do is tell the manager, get him/her to fix the situation. I mean they want to keep business coming so Im sure he/she will fix the problem.
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2016-10-15 01:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she sounds like a really neato person...
Chances are that everyone else there already knows she isn't very kind and feel bad for you when she makes a fool of herself.
Maybe you should bring a picture of a recent ultrasound with you sometime and get a little positive energy after an ugly comment.
2006-09-15 17:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You yell back "IM NOT FAT IM PREGNANT YOU TWIT"
That stuff really irritated me when I pregnant, she is just jealous, you obviously have something she doesnt.... Seriously ignore her, she is making herself look like an ***, not you....
It hurt my feelings too, I was gigantic when I was pregnant, When I was 6 moths and people kept telling me how big I was, I simply told them I know I am big, but Im happily pregnant, end of conversation.
Pregnant is beautiful dont let anyone tell you anyway else, just rub your belly and feel those little kicks and enjoy....
2006-09-15 17:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by rottie110 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋