I'm attending my mother's funeral in a few days, and I was thinking about telling a joke while speaking to the attendees. (I'm sure my mom wouldn't be offended.)
2006-09-15 16:54:20 · 27 answers · asked by David S 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If the joke is relevant to your mum, and everyone will be glad to hear it, then yes.
Not only will it alleviate the tension it will show your strength of character.
Doubt I could have your courage at this time.
Sorry to hear of her passing.
2006-09-15 17:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gone 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry for your loss.
We should all bear in mind that funerals are for the living, because our loved ones have already passed from us. Sometimes a tasteful joke can help to ease the burden from those who are in grief over a loss, and I think it would be entirely appropriate in this situation.
I once went to a funeral for a well-known local comedian who had travelled the world and wrote a few books (he was a distant relation, also). They read some excerpts from his writings, many that dealt with his views on funerals or church behavior, and it brought a smile even to the closest family's face. As a matter of fact, I believe it would have been more disrespectful to his memory to have had a more somber affair...
I believe the family knows wishes best. If there are many others in the close family, you might speak this over with them, first, though, as some people do probably believe funerals should ALWAYS be a somber affair.
2006-09-17 03:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My dad just died 6 months ago and even tho he was a big jokester and loved jokes and laughed all the time and was known as a practical jokester, that's the last thing you are thinking of when they are dead. Nothing's funny, then, BUT, everyone's different and if your mom was a jokester and everyone knew that, then it would be appropriate. There may be some there who didn't know her all that well and think you're terribly rude, but who cares, it's not their mother. Sometimes laughter makes a bad situation manageable. You know some say funerals should be celebrations of that persons life. Whatever you decide, good luck!!!
2006-09-15 17:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the joke is in good taste and puts your Mom in a respectful light, I'd say it's appropriate if you don't feel any reservations about sharing it. People react differently, so that is why you need to be respectful of their feelings and sense of loss, too.
I am very sorry for your own loss. It will hit you time and again when you least expect it. With the loss of my Father, we didn't attend his funeral since his current friends didn't even know about us and his wife obviously didn't want us there. We respected that. However, my brothers and I chipped in together on one super-sized $500. flower arrangement, since Dad wanted to go out with a bang! The wife then could not say that we didn't care. Now, don't you just know the 'friends' were wondering who sent that??! I notice you're a Christian, so will pray for you over the next week, David. Peace be with you.
2006-09-15 18:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by skylight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your loss. I think when people tell a funny story about the person who has died that it is often a great way to remember them. Families will sit around during or after a funeral and talk about the person and they will talk about the funny things they did as well as everything else. It is your mother, I think you should do what makes you feel better about speaking, you probably know better then almost anyone how she would feel about it.
2006-09-15 17:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by curls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 01:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funeral is as much about celebrating your mother's life as your loss at her passing.
If she would not be offended then go for it. You will probably feel her laughing like a warm cloak descending on you after you tell it.
Don't worry about offending anyone else. They have to mourn in their own way and it isn't going to cause a rent in the universe if the don't get it!
2006-09-15 17:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just attended a funeral a few days ago and the best part of it was when the father of the deceased got up and made us all laugh. I think it is completely appropriate.
2006-09-15 18:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss!
I've heard several jokes at funerals, none were offencive to anyone & most were about little quirks the dear departed had.
It's nice that you're going to speak at your mom's funeral, it's a wonderful way to honor her.
2006-09-15 17:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you fell free to do so,then I'd suggest you tell a joke,that your mom once told you. Something that had to do with "Life",and what lessons it has taught you. Be sure to let everyone know,that it was something "she" once said. (examples):
Something about School
A Learning Experience
A Job you thought was bad,but turned out good.
A Strange Trip,to the Mall
Keep it "Tasteful & Short" (out of respect for your mom,and the guest.)
2006-09-15 17:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋