My trust has been broken by the one I love. How can I get back in the game and start trusting again.?!
2006-09-15 16:42:18 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
how can i gain my trust back ? how can i learn to trst my family/friends again ?
2006-09-15 16:55:18 · update #1
I figure you are talking about building trust in a NEW relationship, & that the one that broke it is out of the picture.
Remember this. GUYS REALLY AREN"T ALL ALIKE.
If you treat your next guy like he's the one that broke your heart, then he's the one that will pay the price for someone elses behaviour. Is that fair?
It's up to you to take responsibility for any mistakes you made in the last relationship, & carry only what you learned about yourself into the next one.
You've been hurt & like any other injury, you are a little bruised.
Don't put yourself back in the game without doing some healing 1st. Then go ahead, & put yourself out there. No one ever instantly trusts anyone that they 1st met anyway. Trust is something that you gradually build into a relationship as it grows layer by layer.
2006-09-15 17:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will eventually. Just have to give it time. I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years where I was even raped and yes by my husband. It can happen. He always cheated with other women and at first I did not trust my boyfriend at all but after about 1 year of seeing he was going to be good to me and not cheat I could not trust anybody more. It just came to me I know in my heart he would not cheat on me. It's been a little over 2 years and he still treats me like I'm a queen. But if you get in another relationship and you have the feeling something's wrong. GO WITH YOUR FEELINGS. What ever you suspect is probably happening.
2006-09-15 16:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the time to really reflect from what you have learned, e.g. was there any signs that you ignored? What have you learned about your self? Why are you better off to find someone who will value the morals or ethics you have?
Upon reflection and giving yourself time you may find that you deserve what you are willing to give and will let go of the injury and not the lesson. You deserve better and it will talke you time to trust but remember that when you do find what you need it will be very appreciated and you will really cherish it. I think the thing to remember is no one else can pay for the debt's they don't owe. Another words don't try and make someone else earn trust but give yourself the time and respect you need. Make sure you go slower next time and get your needs meant.
2006-09-15 16:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take it one step at a time. Just go to dinner or something equally as small for awhile. No one says you have to fall in love right away. Good luck
2006-09-15 17:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋