My friend has a two year old and she barely gives him any attention. When I had my son ( who is now 4 months old) She would completely ignore him. He got 3 blocks away from the house because noone was paying attention to him. They were paying attention to my boy. I felt that I had to be a parent ot both of them when he was around. He isnt disciplined and bites, hits and is very mean. I would not trust her with my son at all. The little boy only weighs 21 pounds and he is 2! I think she kept him to make people feel sorry for her and give her sympathy. Everyone thinks she should of given him up for adoption. Well now she is pregnant again. What should be done. She cant even feed her first child, she doesnt even care to. She thinks he needs to have juice all day and a cup of applesauce. It is horrible. Her mother practically raised him when he was little but she is an alcoholic. Their whole family lives off the state. They dont work. Please help. I dont know what to do.
2006-09-15 16:13:02 · 12 answers · asked by flower_angel_goddess 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They do have the state involved and they go to the girls house. She keeps it clean and the family makes sure their is food to make a meal in the cupboards. It is a nurse and dthey get on her about his weight and he doenst gain anything. All they give him is juice.
2006-09-15 16:48:47 · update #1
I did ask to help I even was willing to move in with them. I stayed with her while I was pregnant ( at the end) and everyone noticed how much weight he had gained because I was there. I eat and I eat healthy. I made sure he had a plate of food everytime I ate. I moved to a different state and the rest of the people in the family try but she is so lazy the sister goes over to do the cooking and cleaning for her but the sister doesnt do it everyday. So I do worry.
2006-09-15 16:53:12 · update #2
I hate to be the one to say this, but calling CPS probably won't do much good.
My little cousin's mother is like that. She fed him once a day, the only time he took a bath was when he visited his dad at my aunts house and he had no discipline. Add to this physical abuse, and you'd think reporting her to the state would fix the problem, right? WRONG! They took him away from his mother for about 3 month and then gave him back to her! Not once, but twice. Fortunately for him, about 2 months ago, she realized she's a horrible mother and signed her parental rights away. He's now living with my aunt and uncle.
In your friend's case, because there is so much emphasis on keeping children with their parents now, even if they do take him away, they will give her chance after chance to get him back. Hopefully she will either take her job as a mother more seriously, or realize that she just can't do it. Unfortunately, in these cases, there's nothing much that you can do.
2006-09-15 21:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that I'm concerned about her and ask if she needs any help. And if she doesn't let you help her, I would call social services. Maybe she needs a helping hand or a friend who really seriously wants to help. Tell her the gravity of the situation. And see what she says.
I had a friend of a friend once who had a four year-old son and a three year-old daughter. By the time her daughter was two, she had to have all her teeth pulled because they were rotting. That means she won't have any teeth for three or four more years, when her permanent teeth grow in.
Her son was horrible. He would wipe his feces on walls, curse, and hit other children. He always had a raspy voice, and she was so irresponsible that she had never taken him to get his shots, or even a checkup. One day he had a seizure from eating some kind of painkiller with mustard on it because he was hungry, and they hospitalized him. They found out he had a tumor in his throat the size of a golfball--which was causing his raspy voice. He died two months later.
It all could have been prevented if she had been a responsible mother. Her ex-husband now has her daugher. She's in jail.
And we all knew what a piece of sh*t she was, and figured it was none of our business. And we stayed out of it. And a little boy is dead. Maybe I could have helped. You never know.
The moral of the story is this: You may lose a friend out of the deal, but something serious could happen to her son, or her unborn child. Call social services. Do what's best for those kids. Good luck...
2006-09-15 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by still waiting 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure this will be a very hard thing to do, but if you love your friend and her family you should get Child Services involved.Because if you think that the situations is that bad talking to her will not help.
2006-09-15 16:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick up the phone. Dial Child Protective Services. Let them handle it.
2006-09-15 16:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really quite simple, call your local Division of Family Services!! Do it for the child!! That is called neglect!
2006-09-15 16:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call child protective services in your county. Document what you see her doing/not doing (i.e., what she feeds him, how she treats him, drug use, alcohol use, etc.). NEVER leave your baby with her!!! Trust your instincts and do what's right for the child.
2006-09-15 16:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by monkeymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maximum of you "human beings" have of course by no potential considered the Mexican women that stay in Mexico dont be jealous and thumbs me down yet those women are a lot warmer than the females from u . s .
2016-10-01 00:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
report her to family and childrens services.
2006-09-15 16:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by roxy_gal6920 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know she is your friend but, in the best interest of the children. You should call DCFS.
2006-09-15 16:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by shotohell7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inform child services, community services or whoever it is where you live, you can remain anonymous.
2006-09-15 16:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by trandru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋