i got her pregnant and she wants to take some pills tomorrow to take away the baby. Reason is because her daddy will kill her. but since i want the baby seriously. I had to call her daddy and told him everything by myself, just for her safety, and taking the baby away. I dont know if her daddy would want her to take the baby away or persuade her to not take the pills.
Was i wrong telling someone (her daddy) about this situation?
2006-09-15 16:11:57 · 42 answers · asked by PeaceMaker!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That took some guts! I admire you. You were right and have rights as the father. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 16:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by sassilass06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you were wrong for telling her father. I think you have a right to your opinion, and some say in the matter of having the child or not, but in calling her father when you do not actually know what he will do, you stepped over the line. You may have put the mother and child BOTH in danger. You acted with intent to keep the child safe, sure, but you had no knowledge as to how the father might react in regards to the daughter, and by doing what you did, you endangered both the mother and baby.
Your opinion and rights should be respected, but only to a point - SHE is the one who has to carry the baby, SHE is the one whose health is at risk if there are complications. You selfishly imposed your will upon her, albeit via a third party. In my opinion, that crossed the line and therefore, regardless of your intent, what you did was wrong.
2006-09-15 16:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her abort the baby. She should just keep it and take care of it. If she chooses to keep it, make sure she doesn't just leave it with someone else to take care of while she's at school (if she's still in), because you know how when you drop off your baby at day care, and they always cry when their mothers have to leave? That's exactly how it wll be with her, only her baby will never want to leave whoever it's left with, and decide that it likes the other person better than its own mother.
No, I think you did the right thing telling her dad what is going on. Maybe you could take the baby if your girlfriend (she is your g/f, right?) would be okay with it. If it's the giving birth thing that makes her want to abort...it's not that bad, trust me. If it's school, she'll still be able to go, but when she's at 8 1/2 months, she should stay home. If you really want to keep the baby, just tell her, and try to convince her to keep it. Tell her to remember: babies are children...not choices.
2006-09-15 16:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you wasnt wrong, it called taking responsibility for your actions. killing the baby is wrong.it dident ask to be brought into a situation whear it wasnt wanted. im sure her parents will be upset but plzzzzz dont make the baby pay for something it had nuthing to do with. it deserves a chance at life, dont take that chance from it. you both knew what you were doing and the risk that came with it..now step up and take responsibility for what has happend as a result from it. killing the baby is wrong, just because its not wanted from you or her. if you want this baby make sure you are ready to give up your life for it...a baby is a life time commitment. other options are avaible if neither you or the mom can handle it. just give the baby a chance at life..let it be born and have a life.
2006-09-15 16:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, its refreshing to finally hear about a guy willing to man up to his responsibilities.
This is your child as much as it is hers. If you want her to keep the baby, then make the commitment to the baby. Demonstrate that you're WILLING and ABLE to care for this child. Let this be clear to her father.
From the looks of it, theres a distinct possibility that she will be thrown out of her family if she decides to do so. Her father would be an absolute creep to do so, but it could easily happen. In that case... DO THE RIGHT THING. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to marry the girl, but it DOES mean that you have to help out. Both financially and emotionally.
2006-09-15 16:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Redrum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not...that's your baby and she probably hasn't thought this whole situation out either. she's just scared of her father finding out. You made a brave decision and if she keeps the baby I'm sure she ell thank you for that in the future. I'm sure you'll make a good dad also, good luck
2006-09-15 16:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you just did what you can do. tell your girl that this, too, will pass. having a baby is not the end of the world. the baby may even bring more love and blessings to both of you.
2006-09-15 16:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by jedi_rei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call.
One the one hand, you are showing responsibility.
On the other, not knowing this daddy person, how much danger in the mother now in?
2006-09-15 16:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to this very important quote ....... " No todo el mundo nace pero todo el mundo muere " it means that not everyone is born but everyone dies ( u did the right thing ....... it's Never the baby's fault ) thumbs up and congratulations!!!
2006-09-15 16:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by ying yang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got balls man most guys wouldn't do that...as for daddy thats not really his decision is it. whats momma think if she's the softie of the house go and talk to her having her on your side will definately help smooth things over.
2006-09-15 16:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋