i just started having sex with this guy who is a virgin. we are both adults but i am very sexually expierenced and he obviously isnt. he has no idea what he is doing and i dont know what to do. should i just keep on telling him he is doing fine and encouraging him or should i tell him exactley what to do. i dont want to hurt his feelings or cuase him to become shy and insecure but i would really like to be able to have an orgasm. how do i tell him what to do without hurting his feelings. im kind of shy when it comes to talking about sex i have always been with guys who knew what they were doing so i never have had to say anything. what should i do?
2006-09-15 16:01:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no...stop...eew...find someone else.
2006-09-15 16:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by THAT GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was a virgin and Im sure he Knew , so you being the more experience one slowly show him what feels good to you. Dont try and tell him all at once because he will probably get mad. If you are in a comited relationship you should be able to talk about it. Do not let things go this way for too lon gor it be too late to try and teach him.
2006-09-15 16:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show him what you would like for him to do so the both of you can get pleasure.Tell him that he is doing okay but he's not hitting the spots or doing it how you want it.Don't be shy, because you're only making your sex life miserable for yourself.Once you teach him then he'll be a better lover.Good Luck
2006-09-15 16:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how it was with me and my husband.....i was experienced and he had never had sex before....practice makes perfect....the good thing about him not knowing much is u can train im the way u like it. Dont be shy about telling him. your both adults, neither of u should take offense, right?
2006-09-15 16:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by bruns24cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him, ask him how he feels about it. Ask him if it bothers him if you guide him or not. He might not mind it. He might like the help. But then it might make him feel like he is not performing good enough for you. Just talk to him in a sincere conversation. Get to the heart of it. Good luck.
2006-09-15 16:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same boat with my last boyfriend. you dont really need to talk about it, when you are having sex, take control and do what you want. keep doing it. point what you want and what feels good etc....
sooner or later he will come around.
2006-09-15 16:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by rollieoolie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess just keep practicing and he'll get the hang of it sooner or later. but if you want him to know right away then tell him or ask him if he wants advice. dont be scared
2006-09-15 16:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by preggo&luvinit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role playing.
2006-09-15 16:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by mrkitties420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth .he knows that he needs help and it would sound better coming from you because you are the one having sex with him.
2006-09-15 16:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by bigdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points.
2006-09-15 16:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him as much as you're comfortable telling him. I'm sure he'll appreciate it.
2006-09-15 16:06:23 · answer #11 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋