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I heard this. What about more than one husband?

2006-09-15 15:47:37 · 15 answers · asked by Jazz 2 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

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I think the man gets more than one wife but not the wife.

2006-09-15 15:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

The Qur'an is the only religious book in the world that recommends man to marry one wife. Chapter 4, Verse 3:

"...marry women of your choice, two or three or four, but if you cannot do justice between them, then MARRY ONLY ONE"

there is no other religious book that has carries this statement.

Islam also for the first time in history put an upper limit of 4 wives for one man.

a Muslim woman is not allowed to have more than one husband at a time.

2006-09-15 23:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Historically, most of the prophets married more than one wife christians and jews know about prophet Abraham'story with his 3wives.Abraham had 3 wives in the bible: Sarah, Hagar, and Keturah. (In book of GENESIS)

-Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. (1 KINGS 11:3)

-David had many wives (2 SAMUELS 5:13 i see Polygamy one of of the proofs that muslims only have the true religion of GOD -the religion of all prophets-because only Muslims practice Polygamy

Permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather associated with compassion toward widows and orphans. It was the Quran that limited and put conditions on the practice of polygamy



There is no doubt that the second wife legally married and treated kindly is better off than a mistress without any legal rights or expermanence



The Quran says, "you can marry 2 or 3 and up to 4 women if you can be equally just with each of them" (4:3). Since it is very difficult to be equally just with all wives, in practice, most of the Muslim men do not have more than one wife. Prophet Muhammad (P) himself from age 24 to 50 was married to only one woman, Khadija. In the western society, some men who have one wife have many extramarital affairs. Thus, a survey was published in "U.S.A. Today" (April 4, 1988 Section D) which asked 4,700 mistresses what they would like their status to be. They said that "they preferred being a second wife rather than the 'other woman' because they did not have the legal rights, nor did they have the financial equality of the legally married wives, and it appeared that they were being used by these men."

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if the women has begotten, son who will be his father do you like that u have 4 fathers to your mother u do not know which one u love .. but if man married 4 the kid will know his father and mother then it will be no problem


"Because she can't decide on whose child it is. It is confusing for her." (Japanese law uses the same logic, forbidding women to remarry within six months of divorce.) [In Islam the waiting period, _idda_, is shorter].

2006-09-15 23:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by BeHappy 5 · 0 0

Like Judaism and Christianity, (See, Footnotes No. 2,3,4 and 5) Islam does not provide an explicit prohibition of polygamy (more correctly polygyny).

Unlike Judaism, Christianity and perhaps other religions as well, Islam deals with the issue more clearly and provides certain legal requirements and restraints that amount to the discouragement of such a practice.

The reason for not prohibiting polygamy categorically is perhaps due to the fact that there are certain conditions which face individuals and societies in different places and at different times, which make the limited practice of polygamy a better solution than either divorce or the hypocritical pretence of morality.

Our present day feelings about what is “tasteful” or “distasteful” are something we cannot force on all people everywhere, at all times and under all conditions, unless it is a question of a law coming from God. This leads to the following question.

The verse which allows polygamy “was revealed after the battle of Uhud in which many Muslims were killed, leaving widows and orphans for whom due care was incumbent upon the Muslim survivors.(Abd Al-Ati, Hammuda, Islam in Focus, The Canadian Islamic center, Edmonton Alberta, Canada, 1963, p.103.)

If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them), then (marry) only one…. (Qur’an 4:3)

From this verse a number of facts are evident:

That polygamy is neither mandatory, nor encouraged, but merely permitted.

That the permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather associated with compassion toward widows and orphans, a matter that is confirmed by the atmosphere in which the verse was revealed.
That even in such a situation, the permission is far more restricted than the normal practice which existed among the Arabs and other people at that time when many married as many as ten or more wives.
That dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation. This applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment..etc., for which the husband is fully responsible. If one is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, the Quran say: “then(marry) only one.” (Qur’an 4:3)
This verse, when combined with another verse in the same chapter, shows some discouragement of such plural marriages. The other verse plainly states:

“You are never able to be fair and just as between women even if it is your ardent desire…” (Qur’an 4: 129)

The requirement of justice rules out the fantasy that man can “own as any as he pleases.” It also rules out the concept of “secondary wife,” for all wives have exactly the same status and are entitled to identical rights and claims over their husband. It also implies, according to the Islamic Law, that should the husband fail to provide enough support for any of his wives, she can go to the court and ask for a divorce.

The verse says “Marry,” not kidnap, buy, or seduce. What is “marriage” as understood in Islam? Marriage in Islam is a civil contract which is not valid unless both contracting parties consent to it. Thus no wife can be forced or “given” to a husband who is already married.
I is thus a free choice of both parties. As to the first wife:

She may be barren or ill and see in polygamy a better solution than divorce.
She may divorce him (unilaterally) if he is married to a second wife provided that the nuptial contract gives her the right of unilateral divorce (Ismah).
She can go to court and ask for a divorce if there is evidence of mistreatment or injustice inflicted upon her.

2006-09-15 23:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Kynnie 6 · 0 0

More than one husband? No. The Qur'an permits a man to marry up to four women, but Allah prefers a man marry only one woman. Every Muslim I've talked to about this says that Allah permits up to four wives in situations like when men are at war, to keep the population going, and things of that nature.

2006-09-15 22:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nowhere Man 6 · 0 0

the verse in the Quran says upto four wives at a time are allowed give that the man can treat them equally, the second part of the same verse says "that you can not". So in true understanding this is quite misinterpretted and either genders are suggested only one spouse

2006-09-15 22:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by HK3738 7 · 0 0

It's important to note that when the Quran was written, male Muslims were dying in battle against the polytheists in Arabia left and right. This left many orphans and widows. Marrying them was a way of supporting them financially.

2006-09-15 22:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by brickity hussein brack 5 · 1 0

I don't know too much about Islam, but I found this on the web...

Islamic law allows more than 1 wife...
a translation of (Qur’an 4:3):

If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them), then (marry) only one….

http://www.al-islamforall.org/litre/englitre/Polygainis.htm

2006-09-15 23:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Shiny 2 · 0 0

The Qua'arn allows up to 4 wifes. Each wife must agree that the next wife to be chosen they ALL must agree.

Interesting, that the chinese symbol of war is the symbol of two women under one roof.

2006-09-15 22:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

up to 4 wives under 1 condition and that is to keep it fair. if you cant then you shouldnt.

only 1 husband.

2006-09-15 22:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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