My Adoption Story: I want to be closer to my birth mom....?
I am 13 years old,almost 14.I was adopted young is all I know.
Supposedly,when my birth mother was pregnant with me,my birth father died,which is true he really did.I didn't know all my life I was adopted in fact I haven't known that long at all!Well my real mom,I have known her as my cousin in the family.She's like a second cousin to my adoptive-dad.So I really am related to them.Nobody,has yet told me what age I was adopted at,but I can remember many things.I love my adoptive parents.But the problem is I haven't always been so close to my "was cousin..now mom".I mean I see her every now and then.Well just last week I saw her again,at my aunt's funeral.And the whole time her and I talked trying to get to remember each other better.I really want to be closer to her so bad! I miss her everday.Do you think her new husband will mind me or hate me? If she has another child wont she love it more?
2006-09-15 15:37:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i am adopted. ive known my whole life although my birth mother isnt a relative, i can assure you she will not love her other children more. she gave you a wonderful gift, you may not feel that but she did. take it slow, i know you are wanting a deep meaningful relationship with her but remember, she still carries a lot of emotional scars, most think she made that decision so she must be ok with it. not true. i am now a mother myself and the thought of giving a child up is unthinkable to me. it takes more nerve and strength than most have. remember, she has spent your whole life standing in the background watching you grow and she couldnt be a part of that. that must have put a great deal of guilt on her. as for the husband well, i dont have an answer for that. most people dont understand adoptees or birth parents, just hang in there.
just remember, being adopted does not define who or what you are, it just defines where you came from.
2006-09-15 23:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Being adoptive mother or biological mother,all of them have the sympathy towards you.One keeping in mind,even living faraway,it still links.
2006-09-15 15:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chuong Seng Ly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom will love you and if her new husband loves her he will have to accept you as well.
Enjoy the relationship as it is, don't worry so much over it.
2006-09-15 16:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok dont worry about your mom loving another kid more.. my mom had 4 kids and of course she didnt love us all the same... BUT at least she loved you enough when it mattered most - went she gave you up I mean.. she gave you a better opportunity and THAT was ultimate love...
be close if she wants you close BUT dont estrange your adoptive parents who really love you... infact I beleive it takes MORE love to adopt a kid than to simpley have one of your own...(which only takes sex)
2006-09-15 15:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don think so,it will all be ok,and i am very sorry.U shud ask her, she will probably know.and I dnont think she wud marry him if he ididnt love u.Good luck,it will be fine.Just pray 2 god evrythiing works out,i nkow it will
2006-09-15 16:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always be her daughter and she should recognize it, tell her how you feel and the two of you will get closer.
2006-09-15 15:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by crazed1511 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋