but the step dad has been with me for 9 years. ANY ADVICE
2006-09-15 15:21:19 · 14 answers · asked by masterchief4501 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your step dad is your true dad in your case.
2006-09-15 15:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get to know your biological dad at your own pace and be up front about your feelings for your step dad. Give your biological dad a chance before you make rash judgment about him. Also, reassure your step dad (if you two are close) of how much you love him no matter what, but you would like to get to know your other dad. This could turn out to be a beautiful thing. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-15 22:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up to believe that a man's #1 role in life was to be a father to his children. In today's world, this has gone by the wayside, and I meet many young men, such as you, struggling to deal with this irresponsible behavior.
I salute the fine man that has taken on the task of providing for you, and I hope he is instilling in you the good values you will need to make it through life. This fellow that you call a "biological dad" , I must say, does not rate very highly in my book. Show the responsible fellow that is acting as a father to you your sincere respect and love. That is proper, and deserving.
In any case, The Godfather is always ready to listen, if you want to talk.
2006-09-15 22:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both your Dads and both deserve your respect. However, the step Dad has raised you so be sure to respect the effort and amount of his life that he has given to raising you. You are a product of the values he has inspired in you. The biological Dad has given you his genes so you are like him in many ways that you may not fully understand. Value them both. Don't talk to them about each other as this is stressful for them. Enjoy them separately for their individual contributions to your development.
2006-09-15 22:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,I don't know if i can give you any advise that will help but i can tell you a little about my experience.I never knew my real father,and also had a step.But i got along with my step father,oh we had are times where we couldn't stand each other.But he was the closest thing to a father i ever knew.so when my real father called me 3 days before my wedding,and ask if he could walk me down the isle!!! I said no,but yrs later we had a relationship.know hes gone
2006-09-15 22:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by el 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the one who has taken care of you and picked you up when times are rough/good first(step parent). I have 3 step children and 2 natural children. I treat my step children like they are my natural ones, but they look past me and forget that I'm there for them. It hurts when your not acknowledged. My current husband is going thru this with my children, as well as me with his children's mother. Their biological parents chose to run away from their duties and we get penalized by the hurt that it has created for them. Have 2 parents but remember who has always been there for you. God Bless your family
2006-09-15 22:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the step dad is your father not the real one he just made baby because if he loved you he would of been there all your life stick with the step dad
2006-09-15 22:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by applepiekiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u need advice for? i have a step dad too but i call him my dad. i will never call my real dad, 'dad' because he was never there for me in my life and doesn't deserve to be.
2006-09-15 22:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a dad is something you do and earn...it's not a birthright. You know who's been the real dad to you.
2006-09-15 22:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by elong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step dad raised you and gave you shelter.. love him like your dad. because he is
biological dad.. get to know him..and just be friends w/ him
2006-09-15 22:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋