ok my guy has been going through a divorce for almost 3 yrs, weve been seeing each other a year. he ignores my existence around anyone else like family/friends. he will leave his phone in the car just so they dont ask who he is talkin to. he says they are nosy and he doesnt feel nows the time. well i dont mind that he feels that way, i dont wanna rush anything either, but cant he just not ignore me when they are around, and still text message me, or at least answer his phone? i dont hide him. isnt this wrong, to feel nonexistant when others come into play? am i wrong to be mad, or am i being picky?
2006-09-15 15:13:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a year, he better be prepared to fully accept you into his life, and YES it includes introducing you to the family and friends. If he hasn't done so, he probably just isn't serious about the relationship. Nothing's wrong with it as long as you feel the same way, and are ok with that; but I have a feeling you're not. Find a guy who is not ashamed having you in his life.
2006-09-15 15:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are full of self doubt! But I don't think the problem lies with you. This guy has SOMETHING TO HIDE. It's either from you, or the wife that he's SUPPOSEDLY divorcing!
If he's a manipulator, then he can use your self-doubt against you to keep you off balance so that you will not trust your instincts while he's giving you "plausible" explanations for his actions.
Trust your instincts, it's all you've got.
Take Care!
2006-09-15 15:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best thing is to just wait till he is divorced then if he really cares for you he will still be there but he may just not want to put more problems on the divorce hearing by you being in the picture sure he may love you but the real answer will be if he feels that way after the divorce.be patient
2006-09-15 15:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Iceman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn that was deep. He's the one that's not right. Your doing what anyone would do if caught in the same situation. Don't let him fake mix on you. The real reason, worst case scenario, he has no plans of divorcing and is trying to hide you. Think outside the box.
2006-09-15 15:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger-Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If after one year together he isn't wanting to introduce you to his family or vice versa then it is probably one of two things: either 1) he wasn't the one that wanted the divorce and he isn't over her yet or 2) he isn't as serious about you as you are him. You deserve a man that wants to show you off to everyone! The man that shows you off and wants you to be a part of his life will be the man to truly be there for you and love you. The man that does not is not worth your time.
2006-09-15 15:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. If he can't even have his phone so others won't see who's calling, he's obviously hiding you from whoever he's with. Seems to me like another girlfriend or maybe his wife. I speak from experience, I was getting seperated and had a boyfriend, while still living with my husband, and that's what i did, turn my phone off while at home. so he couldn't see who was calling me. Be smart, follow your instincts, if it feels wrong, it probably is.
2006-09-15 15:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by soided 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, this guy is a jerk. He is treating you like crap. In a real relationship with caring and respect, neither person should feel non-existent. Why doesn't he want anyone to know about you? Is it possible he is involved with someone else? This relationship sounds awfully fishy.
2006-09-15 15:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by schoolot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. Why would he ignores you only when his family is around? He should not do this to you. You deserve more than this.
Let him know how you feel. You must realize that you are in the right and he should realize that he is wrong you by doing this. Discuss with him on how to solve this problem.
Ask him "Who am I to you?". Then, ask yourself, "Is that okay?"
2006-09-15 15:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by camellia_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is playing you for a fool , if he was serious about your relationship he would have pleasure in introducing you to his friends etc. I wonder if his current wife knows about this , 3 years seems to be a long time to finalize a divorce. Piss him off now!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-15 15:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Knackers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got divorced. It took like one day to do the paperwork. This guy is a loser! He's playing you for a sucker--find someone nice!
2006-09-15 15:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by rebecca r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋