My boyfriend of 2 years told me yesterday that he wanted to take a break for a while so that he could "try out" (his words) this other girl for a while, he wanted my permission for this, which was heart breaking as this was not the first time he has wanted this (the first time i gave it too him). He said that he wanted me to wait if it does not work out with this other girl, which i just dont think i can do again because of the pain and hurt it caused me the first time. He just doesnt seem to understand where i am coming from! Does anyone have any advice to offer me? i am just completely stuck!
2006-09-15 15:09:21 · 63 answers · asked by Laura J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him quickyly before he dump you! Don't wait for him anymore. 'TAKE A BREAK' for guys meaning 'I BORED WITH YOU AND I FOUND ANOTHER GIRL, & I WANT TO LEAVE YOU BUT I'M AFRAID YOU CAN'T BEAR LOSING ME SO I WAIT FOR YOU TO SAY "I WANNA BREAK UP" ' ..that's it. Better be alone than unhappy. You'll find a better guy after him.
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2006-09-15 15:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by ★ yaya ★ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not want you to be angry with him if he can break it off with your permission nicely. And he would be really happy if you were there for him if he finds out that she is not the one (you've already been there and done that once, right?) . . . get over the hurt and spend your time living life.
Explore a new hobby . . . meet new people . . . anytime you get involved in a relationship, there is always the chance that you are going to feel some pain. It is how you deal with it that makes a big difference.
You are not married to the guy. Get on with your life and tell him best wishes!
2006-09-15 15:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to wander off so which you and the different lady could have exciting on my own! Any way you slice it, he desires to have intercourse with somebody else. which may be ok while you're actually not a severe couple. How long will that is formerly he will play around or manage you right into a threesome? in case you think of that may not be in a position to ensue, you're in hassle-free terms fooling your self, via fact that is going to if he needs it sufficient. merely think of approximately what a threesome can do to a courting. some day he ought to do a guy... the place will it end? How long will you be a pair once you have a threesome? i'm not telling you to offload him, yet bear in ideas this: A courting does not pick capability to deal with taking a 0.33 lover into the mattress - it takes capability to maintain different fans OUT.
2016-10-15 01:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you even consider this??? This guy does not have any respect for you, and he obviously doesn't love you. Why is your self-esteem so low that you'd be willing to wait for him while he screws someone else? So you're his SECOND choice, but if his first choice doesn't rock his world then when he feels like it he'll come back to you, and you're just supposed to WAIT for him until that happens?? That's just insane!
You have got to be strong in yourself and set your limits as to what you'll accept and what you won't. I don't even understand why you're stuck. He obviously doesn't care for you at all or he wouldn't do this. And he's being such a jerk by "asking your permission" to do it -- because then of COURSE you can't be mad or hurt when he does, since you told him it was ok.
Please PLEASE have more respect for yourself than this. Tell him to piss off - find someone who will love YOU and put you first and not expect you to wait while he "tries out" someone else! I don't even know you, but I know you're better than this and he's not worth it.
2006-09-15 15:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an absolute fool. If my girlfriend ever said that she wanted to go on a break to see another man, then I would give it to her, but it would be a permanent break. I cannot believe you. Especially the part about you are supposed to wait just in case the other girl does not work out. Basically you are the less desirable of the two, but if she does not work he can always fall back on you. You make me ill.
2006-09-15 15:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new boyfriend..... He is asking for permission to cheat, and he will do it with or without your permission eventually. Seeings that this is the second time he is asking for this, it seems as though, he is not going to change and will continue to ask for these breaks....WHY allow that to happen to yourself. He either loves you and wants to be with you or he doesn't. And, if he is asking to go with another girl...he doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved. Stand up, don't let yourself be someones second choice....because that is what you will be doing if you keep letting this happen. Believe me there is a guy out there that will love you so much, that he wouldn't risk losing you for another girl.
Be strong...Get out...Good luck.
2006-09-15 15:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD TELL HIM TO TAKE HIS ASS ON!!!! There is no excuse for his behavior. Either he is with you or not. Two years is beyond playing games like this and obviously you and him are not on the same wavelength. I know it is hard, because I have been in a similar type situation, but really you are just in a routine. I say find a new routine that you like and enjoy that doesn't make you cry. What an IDIOT HE MUST BE! Karma is a *****, though. Always remember that...
2006-09-15 15:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the strong one & say "you can have a permanent break!" and if he says hes not going to do it tell him he may as well b/c u are done with him.
You NEED to read this book "HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" by Greg Behrendt & Liz T (cant remember) they should have it at your local library or book store. It is a must read for ladies, I guarantee you will be glad you did & probably pass it along to all your girlfriends. Its not in the usual format as most books, its quick & easy to read! You will get a good laugh too!
2006-09-15 15:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're perfectly okay with it, then there's nothing wrong with it...
But obviously it's bothering you... and because it IS, let me tell you... that cycle probably isn't ever gonna stop, and if it does, it might be soon, it might be later.. except the thing is that YOU are the one getting hurt.
It's always better to get crashed, hurt hard.. and move on, then to be hurt over and over, until you absolutely can no longer deal with it... and by then, you'll realize that you'll never be able to take back all those months, years, or whatever that you've wasted.
2006-09-15 15:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by late664 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What girl!!! Send that boy our of your life. He does not deserve you. Love yourself a little more, u r worth much more than this boy is giving u credit for. Im sure there is a boy out there wanting to make u happy, dont let this one hold u down, while he gets the taste of some other girls.
no one deserves to be the second option.
2006-09-15 15:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by L.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM DON'T LET HIM BE DOING THIS TO YOU HE KNOWS THAT YOU WILL ALWAYS TAKE HIM BACK NO MATTER WHAT .THIS BEHAVIOR IS NOT RIGHT . REAL LOVE IS NOT ON AND OFF AGAIN AND IF HE WAS REALLY IN LOVE WITH YOU HE WOULD NOT WANT TO BE OUT THERE PLAYING AROUND WITH ANOTHER GIRLS!BREAK UP WITH HIM AND PICK UP THE PIECES AND FIND SOMEBODY ELSE I KNOW IT WILL HURT AT FISRT BUT IT WILL GET BETTER. BECAUSE THINGS ARE NOT GOING TO CHANGE.IF YOU LET HIM KEEP DOING THIS YOU ARE HEADED DOWN A LONG ROAD OF HEART BREAK!PLEASE GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP FOR GOOD!GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-15 15:18:27 · answer #11 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋