Would you ever consider going out with a guy that drives a beat-up car and have a low paying job? How much does a man have to make in order for you to even consider him as a boyfriend material?
Does money matter? Please no "politically correct answers" I'm looking for true honest answers.
2006-09-15 15:01:21 · 19 answers · asked by Inquisit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on what type of gal you seek! If you just plan on dating, you may want to be prepared to "treat" once in awhile. A gentleman would do so.
Now if you plan on a relationship as you imply, you can definitely score yourself an independent woman who doesn't mind a romantic man who shows up with freshly picked flowers as opposed to store bought ones. This is hard to resist if you use charm and charisma, but then you can be vunerable to being walked on if you are too mushy all the time!
If you just want straight sex, well you often get what you pay for! (Heehee).
I think women just want to know that if they were to get in a relationship where one thing leads to the other, ie, marriage, kids, or just kids...we would like to make sure that there wouldn't be a financial problem or that there is stability or some kind of security one way or another so we can take care of the kids (or our half of whatever) and there won't be a broken car when you need to travel or unfed kids screaming in a card board box home. Remember money can lead to potential problems and serious disputes. But no matter what the relation or friend "ship" is about, the most important things to remember are:
1. women want to feel wanted and sexy from whom they are seeing (constantly) but not treated like a piece of meat. Tell her she's pretty! I say constantly only because most guys need to be reminded that time spent things tend to plateau out and are assumed and or forgotten! The older we get, the more we crave, 'til menopause, so don't forget to compliment ALOT.
2. Women want to be taken care of ... and that is in every aspect whether physical, financial and/or emotional. You get results when you give, you get back, simply just listen about her day while rubbing her feet!
3. Communication. Be honest always but with tact. When you don't care to talk or don't know what to say, simple...HUGS! Try it sometime!
Ask yourself, what do you bring or can offer to the relationship? Think about it. It doesn't have to be money or a great car...make a list of what other things you can offer and POLISH those up, make them shiny and groom yourself! Wash up and wax that old piece of junk if you plan to take her home in it, see that there is a clean place to sit in your room!
They say that there is someone out there for everyone! Don't give up! But then again, don't be shy either; pick a flower and present it with a smile, it is better than any PICK UP line ever!
Standards set too high in some cases can look very much like gold digging and when a man does it he tends to look like a looser!
Smile, people are drawn to happy people looking outward, not down at their feet! Not dopey, grumpy, self-conscious, depressed, not foul, but confident, pleasant smelling and speaking, no matter what they appear to be on the outside, the inside can make up for that!
Here's the catch...Why would a guy with a low paying job be wanting to pay for a girl all the time that is looking to be paid for, why would you want that? Next thing you know, you'll be paying for trips to the salon to maintain her. Have you checked out the prices at top salons? Do you want to buy a mercedes for her, imagine how much the maintenance on that would be? What you see needs to be natural not high maintenance!
Don't chase too hard if she is not interested, she is not going to change her mind tomorrow! Meanwhile, there's plenty of others out there and we are all getting older faster so don't waste time on a true lost cause! You have to make that decision, most women don't play hard to get!
Good luck and I hope that this information gets you off your pity pot and out in a field of flowers with a girl on your mind!
2006-09-15 15:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by laurameetsworld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I perfer a guy that drives a better car then me. As for income I would say he would have to make at least 60,000 plus. Depends on what state you are in as well, you know the cost of living. I figure that the type of guy that i am looking for now has to be husband material, I am not going to waste my time on a guy knowing that it is not going anywhere. I still believe that a guy should make enough to support his family and put some money into savings to save for a rainy day. I would like to have a guy that has his stuff together, has motivation to actually look for a good job. So yes in most instances money does matter. Now if it were a guy that I was just dating for fun and not looking for a future with him then the money thing doesn't matter, it is the other thing that matter, size if you know what I mean.
2006-09-15 15:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by vsecrets24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If depends on where you are in your life. If you're old enough to be thinking of settling down sometime soon with someone, buying a house and starting a family, it might make a difference. If you are still in the going out and having fun for today stage, then it probably won't.
Why is this guy so poor? If it's education, he can do something about changing that. If it's because he's lazy, that's another thing entirely.
2006-09-15 15:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people in general tend to have relationships with people who are like themselves in intelligence, drive, attractiveness, and lifestyle. A guy with a low-paying job would be most likely to have a relationship with a girl who also has a low-paying job and is about the same as he is in terms of the other factors, too. Yes, there are plenty of cases where not all of those are there, but there's always at least one. And lifestyle becomes one of the most important factors if the more successful partner is very successful because there are public events that require escorts and if the partner doesn't have the means to dress and behave appropriately, it's a big problem.
There are lots of situations where a really financially successful person has a relationship with someone who isn't very successful, but there are other factors involved. Maybe the lower income person is intelligent, attractive, funny, motivated better themselves... But there has to be something to balance out the money difference.
2006-09-15 15:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I obviously can't speak for every woman out there but for me, as long as the man has a job and is taking care of himself financially no, it doesn't matter. I can buy things for myself if I want them...what I truly need from a man is attention, love, commitment.
2006-09-15 15:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by jezabell_1963 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in today's world money does mean 'something'. However, it should not be the criteria for a relationship other than having enough money to live on in the fashion ya'll want to.
2006-09-15 15:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it matters. A man has to be able to match my standard of living. I wasn't driving a beater before him, right? He doesn't have to be rich, but he has to be a good provider. My mother always told me if you marry a man for his money, you'll spend the rest of your life earning it, and I believed her.
2006-09-15 15:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never thought it did till my last boyfriend. we were together for 9 yrs. durring that time i went to school and got a better job. now that i made more money than him, he changed.
he felt i was always in compatition with him. i didnt want him to know how much i made but he insisted.
after that he became a workaholic and i wasnt important anymore. it was like he resented me.
lets just say i had to walk away. now im single and happy....should have done it sooner
2006-09-15 15:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by drivenstat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GAME does not matter to me no matter what you say. if the guys got everything i need, that more than i need to know to know for a fact i might love that guy for the rest of my life
2016-03-17 21:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no if you really love him it shouldn't matter at all love rules it all the both of you should work that out together but money doesn't matter if thier is love
2006-09-15 15:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by applepiekiwi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋