I was just staying with my father for a couple of nights and I had in my suitcase a journal. I realize that yes I am 20 years old but I have always had one because of hardships in my life and found it helpful to have that to vent sort of like having my own theorpy at the end of each day. Anyways while I went to work my father's new wife read it and then when I got home they were very upset to say the least to find out that I had a boyfriend and was having sex with him. I don't even live with my parents but my father is VERY religious...part of a very strict religion or cult whatever you want to call it. Any ways he told me he never wanted to see me ever again and I felt mixed because at the time was upset at them reading it My question is my boyfriend wants to know how they found out so much but I don't really want to tell him that I have a journal. Should I tell him? And how should I handle my family situation? Any sugestions is helpful. If details are needed I will add them
2006-09-15 14:58:38 · 7 answers · asked by Jessye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also after they kicked me out my boyfriend called for me at that house before I could get a hold of him and my stepmother told him that I was a derranged little girl, that would lie about everything to get what I want and would ruin his life! This is not a lie he told me all that she had to say and I could not believe it. We are both mature but the main problem is he is older and native. And in my journal I talked about my fathers past sexual charges and that upset him the most I would have to say.
2006-09-15 15:09:40 · update #1
Yuck, what a mess. Anyway, I'd stay clear of the parents for awhile. You're a grown up; you don't have to answer to them. Let them cool off and approach them after a few weeks. Be nice, and if they won't be nice back send them a Xmas card each year with your address and phone. They'll call when they're ready.
As for the boyfriend . . . you said you don't want to tell him; then don't. All you have to say is the parents violated your privacy and found out. End of story. A good boyfriend will let it go at that.
2006-09-15 15:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a journal is very much your own prerogative. It was very wrong of your father's wife to read it. If they are so religious, then why was she snooping around in your stuff where she had no business in the first place? It's not even your boyfriend's business that you keep a journal. As far as the way your father feels about you having a boyfriend and having sex, you are a grown woman and you have a right to a life. If he would say that he never wanted to see you again just for that reason, then in my opinion, HE is a sinner. Christians are not suppose to judge another person. Right? And besides, life is too short for him to be so small-minded. I would confront the both of them and tell them how I felt if I were you. What've you got to lose?
2006-09-15 15:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young lady, you have strayed from the path, but I can't hold you entirely responsible. It sounds as though you have suffered from a lack of attention at a very important time in a young woman's life. A father should never abandon his child, regardless of the reason. That is you flesh and blood, and nothing in life can change that.
Don't think I haven't had moments with Sonny, Michael, Constanza and Fredo....they were a handful. But I never sent them away, no matter how angry they made me. A father should forgive all to maintain the family structure...without it, you are nothing.
Be thankful in this regard, however. If I was your father, your boyfriend would pay for his disrespect to you. That is no way to treat a young woman. I know that we live in a different world today, but some things, it seems, have changed for the worse.
In any event, The Godfather is here to listen, if you care to talk.
2006-09-15 15:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Elwood Blues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should tell your boyfriend the truth. There is nothing wrong with writing in a journal. If he cares for you, he will be understanding. As far as your family situation goes, you need to tell your stepmom that you are an adult now. And, that reading my journal was invasion of privacy. They have no right to know your personal business. You need to step up to the plate and be an adult. I bet, they will be suprised how you handled the situation. Good luck!!!
2006-09-15 15:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have never slept with that guy without your father's permission. You have done a disgraceful thing, plus your father has a right to read your journal. You need to to tell your boyfriend the truth and apologize for playing the harlot in your father's house.
2006-09-15 15:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by sandstorm222 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow!!! i would be SO mad if my REAL parents did that..let a lone some lady i dont even know!! wow...dang..i'd fricken be SOOOO mad.
and yeah, of course tell your boyfriend that you keep a journal..girls keep journals..all of my friends do, its nothing big..and they write about stuff like that. your boyfriends not going to think you're weird or anything..i have like 3 of them.
if your father was so religious, he should realize that god forgives..
tell your dad that you love this kid and you're 20 years old. and you used protection (?) and that you both were tested for diseases before any of this happened (?)
i hope things work out.
2006-09-15 15:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jamiexx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not go back some of those churches practice corporal punishment even to adults
2006-09-17 10:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by toad4446 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋