About a month ago, I needed a big favor from my brother (long story but it didn't involve money). He readily agreed and said of course he will do it for me, because he said I helped him out big time before.
Then, a few days later he called and made up a bunch of excuses and said he couldn't do it. The way he sounded, I knew his wife had something to do with it.
The next day, my sister came over and told me that she was at his house cutting his hair, and his wife started talking junk about me regarding that favor I asked of him. My sister said she got upset hearing his wife talk about me that way, especially since my brother was sitting there allowing her to talk about me that way. So she left.
I know my sister wouldn't lie to me about something like this.
Anyhow, I resolved my issue without my brothers help.
After all of this, my sister and I avoided him and his wife for a few weeks, but then he started coming back around, so we are back talking to him, but it is only courtesy
2006-09-15 14:55:36 · 15 answers · asked by bonicua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
However, yesterday he had the nerve to call me and ask me if I could help him move a piano he bought for his wife.
My girlfriend told me that I would be a damn fool if I went over there and helped him move that piano after all that trash they (especially his wife) were talking about me.
Is she right, or should I be the bigger person and forget about the fact that he left me hanging?
I believe that family should stick together, but am I a fool for helping him when he doesn't help me??
2006-09-15 14:58:33 · update #1
Him not being able to help you sounds like his wife made that decision for him.
Un fortunately she calls the shots there. He probably didn't have a choice and he has to live with her.
You are brothers first. I would help him, and if you have time talk to him about it. He may be bummed that he wasn't able to help.
2006-09-15 15:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Heather B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your blood get a couple of beers and sit on his porch and talk it out, tell him in front of his wife that you respect both of them and don't rag on them behind their backs and you expect the same from them. Its one thing to stab a friend or stranger in the back but its another thing to allow your wife to take a swing at a person from behind full knowing that if he returns the favor in any form he will put a land slide of ill feeling in motion . Ask him what on earth you did to deserve this attack on you
2006-09-16 00:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A piano is a heavy thing to move. Tell your brother your back hurts and you fear you'll hurt it more. His wife can hire movers for this job.
2006-09-15 22:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with purple girl. Also I believe that u can kill a person with kindness, I would do it just to show him that you're a bigger person. He should feel like crap just for asking u knowing he wasn't there 4u
2006-09-15 22:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by imperial1931 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can still be friends...but now you know, just don't count on him in time of trouble. It's hard, but you know the old saying "You can choose your friends, but not your family." At least you have a supportive sister.
2006-09-15 21:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop talking to him..
Not even for courtesy or favor,
So that he will know his lesson and know you did not like what he and his wife did to you and your sister..
That is why they abused you,,, you allowed them to..
2006-09-15 21:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it!! obviously his wife has a problem with you. the best thing to do is just talk it over..maybe you all will form a better relationship and things like this wont happen.
goodluck.
2006-09-15 22:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jamiexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was u i wouldnt help him right now but if he did some else done u should help but right just stay back awhile and maybe next he wont talk so much sh** and his lil smizzy wife
2006-09-15 22:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you it was his wife is fault then why be mad at him. she might not respect your family. but he will also be your brother. if he asked for money or something to help her. just tell him that you love cause he is your brother but you can not help her for she doesn't respect you.
2006-09-15 22:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR BROTHER AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR HIS WIFE TO BAD MOUTH YOU, PARTICULARLY IN FRONT OF YOUR SISTER.if THIS WOMAN CAN NOT GET HER FACTS STRAIGHT i DON"t THINK YOU OWE HER ANY HELP.YOU NEED TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU CAN"T COUNT ON YOUR BROTHER GOOD LUCK
2006-09-15 23:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋