2006-09-15 14:46:07 · 10 answers · asked by suave l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
spend more time with him. take him to ballgames or movies, and speak with him, he's a child and it is easy to act on emotion, you spend time with him and teach him to respext his elders or else he'll get worse. good luck.
2006-09-15 14:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 11 yr old daughter does this- it is the awful part of children getting older.
I remind her- not always calmly I admit- that I'm the adult and she is the child and talking back or arguing is not acceptable.
When she continues I send her to her room and stop the conversation entirely and tell her I refuse to speak or discuss things further until she respects me.
She huffs and puffs for another minute or two and gives up and she gets punished- loss of TV etc no exceptions when back talk or arguing happens 1 day or more of lost privleges.
When she calm and acting normal I try and talk to her then about how I do not like punishing her and her being grounded forces us to miss out on fun things we could have done together- tript o teh beach- day out etc because she is grounded.
I want to do things with her she thinks are fun but I wont give in and do them if she is grounded and in effect we both lose. After weeks of this she is catching on and her bahavious is getting better. It is not easy dealing with kids during this stage but being firm setting limits and taking the time when things are calm to explain why punishment is given and the overall effect I think is putting what kids normally consider parents being mean in more understable cause and effect terms they grasp.
Not to mention they begin to realize thier grounding affects more then just them.
2006-09-15 21:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says" spare the rod spoil the child!" You do not say how old your son is?..therefore the best way to answer your question would truely be difficult. But I agree with the lady that suggested making your YES, yes...& your NO, no! ...Discipline your son & you will keep him out of more trouble than if you just allow him to get away with what he is currently doing! If you cannot do that yourself, & your spouse is not there or unwilling..then I would suggest a counceling agency that may help you get back your control! May the Lord help you & bless your efforts!
2006-09-15 21:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by maranatha132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people dont want to hear this , but you have to train your kids from birth . My kids , all 3 of them , do not talk back. They are 18-11-5 years old.
I have always made sure who my kids are hanging out with.. Whan you punish him for talking back, STICK with the punishment, dont let up... If you do, he will see your weakness... He will know that he can win...
But kids are different these day, when I was little , we did not dare talk back... We got a spanking, but today you get turned in to cps for spanking your child...
Well I wish you luck!
I work at a high school . I see lots of kids who are "bad" but when you just talk to them with respect, you will 90% of the time see a difference.
2006-09-15 21:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by bailey lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will not tolerate it and put him on punishment. You have to let him know that you are the parent and keep the line of respect clear. Do not argue with him, do not give in to him and do feel obligated to do things for him that he has not earned.
It will be hard at first and if he is really bad off, he may call you names and throw tantrums, but be strong. Think about the fact that if he doesn't learn respect now, life will teach him that lesson hard on later.
2006-09-15 21:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle but firm, let him know this is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.. If this has just started, try to find out what is going on with him. He may have a problem and he is striking out. Let him know you are always here for him and he must show you the same respect that he also desires...Good luck!
2006-09-15 22:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by new_kid82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son!? makes a difference.
But whatever his age, be the parent! Be strong. Make your words firm and most importantly back them up. He's asking you to start acting like an authority figure.
2006-09-15 21:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking is not punishment.
Give him a punishment. Immediately when he starts to back talk.
Then really follow through.
You have to figure out the punishment, be it a time out, taking away privileges or spanking.
This even works with 16 years olds. Take away the computer, the phone, cash, going out, whatever.
2006-09-15 21:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a rod to his ars
2006-09-15 21:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would send his *** to boot camp a.s.a.p
2006-09-15 21:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋