How to break it to them?

Question

I'm currently in high school and I've been thinking about college. I've decided that I'm defiently not going. My mother understands and backs me up, but my father on the other hand, I don't know. My question is, what is the best way to break it to him that I don't plan on going to college? He knows I've been tested gifted, make good grades, and all, and he talks about college all the time, about scholarships, and how he would pay for it and all, even tho he's a high school drop out. Please help me decide how to tell him. I'm afraid if I did it the wrong way he would either be mad or disappointed.

I don't ever plan on going to college, I'm going to move when I get out of high school and try to get a career in music. If that falls thru, I write books, and some of them have already been send to publishers and have been accepted. I work at his motorcycle shop, I have for 10 years. I have all kinds of real life experience, and business experience.

Answer 1

Tell him that you can go to college whenever you want. Its not necessary that one has to go to college right after high school.
If you don't want to go to college at all, thats your decision.

You should tell him that you find it more important to get an experience of the real world immediately. Also, you may want to add that you want to go to college at your own time later in life and with your own hard -earned money.

I personally think you should go to college sometime in your life, because it will definitely help you make more money later in life.

Also, please select a best answer. most of us are genuinely trying to help and it'd be nice if you'd return the favor.

Answer 2

I'm sure you have your reasons and that is your business, but just my two cents...go to college! No matter how you tell your Dad he's going to be mad and disappointed. He wants the best for you. I am 24 and a college dropout. I quit when I got pregnant. I've been lucky enough to be a stay-at-home mom for the past 4 years and let me emphasize the LUCKY part....things don't always work out like that. I've been trying to get back in the work force for the past several months and do you know what kind of jobs are out there for someone without a degree?....not much that will pay the bills...at least where I live. Mostly minimum wage jobs, and that's a joke. It takes more than one minimum wage job to pay the bills. Now I'm starting to sound like my parents. I'm sorry. As soon as it's possible, I plan on going back to school. Take it from someone who's been there....go to school. There's a lot to learn there and not all of it is academic. At the very least wait a year before you really decide. That way you'll be able to get a glimpse of what life would be like with out a degree. Good luck in whatever you decide to do. Take care.

Answer 3

If you are currently in high school, I would tell your Father what you have been thinking about, tell him your alternative plans that you have rather than college. Do you realize what you will do or how you will make ends meet if Dad decides that he will not support you? I started college after high school, then decided I wanted to work and buy things for my girl. 2 years later, I wanted to go back, but my Dad lost his job and couldn't pay for it. I missed a golden opportunity, and if your Dad is offering to pay for it, I would seriously try college first. You could always drop out if you can't stand it. It looks ALOT better on a resume if you had SOME college rather than just high school. Think about it! Whatever you decide, good luck!

Answer 4

Here's the deal:

No matter how you break it to him, he's going to be mad and disappointed. Yes, there will be arguing and yelling.

The important thing is you don't get upset and be calm. The conversation will probably devolve into yelling, but let him be the one doing all the yelling. Be mature and calm at all times.

If you are really going to waste your life by not going to college, then make sure you have a REALISTIC plan for yourself.

Examples of unrealistic plans:
-See how things work out
-Become a good Fry-o-Lator operator at your local fast-food joint
-Become an actress (porn or legitimate)
-Become a dancer (strip or legitimate)
-Become a professional athlete
-Become an artist
-"I don't know"
-"Who are you to judge me? You dropped out of high school and did fine..."
-Work at a factory
-Become a model
-Become a singer
-Move to New York City or Los Angeles and "make it big", whatever the hell that means
-Deal drugs
-Your boy-/girl-friend will support you until you get things figured out
-You need time to "find yourself"
-Become a stripper
-Become a hooker

Examples of realistic plans:
-Learn a specific trade such as electrician or plumber
-Start your own business with a DETAILED, WELL THOUGHT OUT business plan; get input from your teachers and local business organizations such as your local/state Chamber of Commerce
-Obtain a professional certification such as CPA (Certified Public Accountant), or RN (Registered Nurse).
-Have a SPECIFIC career goal- this will almost guarantee you need to get a college degree, unless you just want to manage a gas station all your life, or work as a cashier at Wal-Mart.
-Join the military and make a career out of it.

No matter what, you will need to get a Bachelor's degree at some point in your life to make a decent living; having just a high-school diploma guarantees you'll never make a decent living.

In fact, high school graduates make $15,000-$20,000 less per year than those who get their Bachelor's degree. That's EVERY year, for a person's ENTIRE LIFE.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think you're wrong about not going to college. College grads make about 60 % more in the way of salaries,. think about the future , not just today. if you don't go you will regret it yearsc down the road when you have 4 kids and are stuck in the house

Answer 6

With grades I think you should go to college ( better pay,better jobs, crazy college stories ) If my parents would pay for my college I would go

Answer 7

you can have a compromise. You take a break after your senior year for one year. After the year is up you all sit down and discuss it

Answer 8

he just wants the best for you, he wants you to have what he couldn't it'd make him happy to see his child is getting the best education there is and when they deserve it.