How do I tell sum one whom im about to date, that i have HPV which has cleared & theres nothing 2 worry about?

Question

How would I bring it up? I really like the guy and I'm not sure how he'll react, and I dont want him to have the idea that I must sleep around, since I have this STD...Please help, I feel so alone and desperate to get this off of my chest....

Answer 1

Hi,

Try to relax. The HPV Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) is not a horrible hideous condition. Okay you some how contacted visual vaginal warts or it showed up on your pap test.

Anyone who has ever had a wart has HPV - some are sexual transmitted others are not. Either way, yes I can understand why you are worried about telling your new partner, and you are doing the right thing, but try to relax a bit.

Go to this web site. It should answer some of your questions or at least this one, http://www.metrokc.gov/health/apu/std/hpv.htm

Honestly honey this isn't the end of the world. You have been treated. They are visually gone (provided you ever saw them in the first place), and your medical doctor has cleared you, so try and relax.

First of all you are not alone. Much of the population has been exposed to HPV, and are infected, even if they have never shown any signs. In fact, they could be carriers of the HPV virus and never even know it. After all that's more than likely how you got it.

Having an STD, or being treated for an STD, or being exposed to an STD does not mean you are a sleep around or are NOT a responsible sexual partner - if it did - you wouldn't be worried about it, or posting your question here.

Thus, my best advice it to search the web or speak to a health care provider. There are a lot of great sources out there.

Do your home work on the subject and stop kicking yourself in the head for things that happen to normal people.

You have been exposed to something that most of the population has also been exposed to, so you are more normal than you think...

As far as telling your new partner just say, "There's something I have to talk to you about."

This isn't going to be as hard as you think. Although, I would pick up some pamplets at your local health department or have some internet sites book marked in case he has any questions...

I wish you all the luck! You are doing the right thing. If more people were honest like you - then all STD's might start to dwindle in number - not increase!

Take Care!

Answer 2

Girl, give yourself a break. 80% of women have HPV and although it is sexally transmitted...it only effects women. the men who carry the virus(and there are 100's of forms of HPV-even the small virus strand that may cause warts kind) do not know they are effected because they do not present symptons-if you have the mild HPV then I wouldn't even let your partner know. Just wear a rubber and stay on top of your 6 month check ups. Since it is such a common minute STD, it probably is the only one a girl can keep quite about-especially to a man she is not in love with-you don't have to sleep with him right away anyway-build trust first so when you do let him know about it and explain it very well-he'll be so in love he won't care because it DOES NOT EFFECT MALES just a females sex organs.

Answer 3

While HPV is only transmitted thru sex, it is a virus NOT an STD. Men are carriers as well but there is no testing for men, therefore making it fairly undetectable in them. HPV can lie dormant for years sometimes, ie you could have received it from someone long ago. It is not necessary to tell anyone as long as it is currently gone (your PAP test will detertmine this). Just be sure to use protection.....always.

Answer 4

Just be bold, but not too bold. Do it in a private setting and just let him know you have something thats imporant to you to say. Tell him the situation and if he accepts thats great. I dont see why he wouldnt. He should understand that things just happen if he is truely a great guy. If he has a bad reaction, then he's immature and no good for you any way. You might be hurt, but in the long run it will be good for you. But if he's the one, everything will go fine, and he'll like you just the same. Good luck! and best wishes!

PS- The worst thing you can do is hide it from him. You wouldnt want anyone to hide anything from you.

Answer 5

My sister is married to a guy with hpv. He had it formerly they have been given married and that i think of she knew formerly she married him. He had a son while they met who became 4 years previous. 2 years while they married, he cheated on her. many human beings, nevertheless not all, who've had intercourse exterior of wedlock will cheat while they get married via fact they don't value intercourse pretty and/or they don't understand the choice intercourse. She gotten smaller hpv from her husband and she or he will have it for all times, i think of. She has had 3 little ones with him now; all after he cheated on her by ability of how. they're doing nicely now; 4 years after the adultery. a minimum of one in all those little ones has it and that i'm undecided approximately the different 2. She's 34, so they're performed intentionally having little ones. It won't provide up you from with the flexibility to get pregnant unavoidably. What i understand with regard to the vaccine is that it in hassle-free terms protects against some strands of the hpv virus. As for waiting, that's a great thought. you do not pick to finally end up with a bad guy. the main depressing human beings interior the international are actually not people who not at all marry. quite, they're people who marry the incorrect human beings. Being a Christian, i'm waiting for my wedding ceremony night to have intercourse on the grounds that's what the Bible teaches that we ought to continually do. that's greater romantic that way on the grounds that's a undeniable present on your better half once you have waited. To do otherwise is sinful and sexual sin is a sin against one's very own physique, so the outcomes are quite devastating in comparison to different sins. those outcomes exist even while ailment and unplanned pregnancies are factored out merely via character of intercourse (I Corinthians 6). God created the human physique and designed the sexual bond to final for all of eternity. Adam and Eve might not at all have died if that they had not disobeyed God. Sorry this answer is a splash long yet with a bit of luck it became efficient to you.

Answer 6

ask him if he has been tested for StD's before you have sex. By the way why rush into it,work on your realtionship. Then tell you had HPV.

Answer 7

If you use protection do you have to tell him? I would say don't rush into the physical part of the relationship then once you've become better friends you'll know if you can talk to him or not.

Answer 8

correction, hpv goes away on it's own. My dr explained 80% of people have it. and last I knew genital warts is caused by a form of the herpes virus ( per my dr)

Answer 9

HPV never goes away. It causes cervical, vulvar & vaginal cancers in females, and penile cancer in males. As well as genital warts.

Answer 10

It does not clear. It hides in your body and is still contagious even if medicated.