Ok, i want to know why women are unpredictable. I mean, first they tell you something, then they mess with you and play coy, as if I'd get the hints they throw at me. Then when all is said and done, they give you lines like "I think of you as a friend" or something of that nature. Why do you play with our emotions?! Is it fun to you, huh? You get your kicks off of making us guy panic and scamper around on your whim? Why, tell me!!
2006-09-15 14:05:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because we like to keep you guessing
;)
2006-09-15 14:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by person 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While some women or girls might do this, not all of us do. Some of us are pretty clear in our intentions and like to be honest and upfront about what we feel or don't feel. Is it fair that some girls do this to you? Absolutely NOT, and I most certainly can understand the anger, the hurt and the confusion that you feel. You are justified in your reaction, honestly.
When women do stuff like that they are basically playing a game and are fishing for an answer from you. They may gauge their answer based on what you say in response. This is especially true with the coy attitude and saying one thing and then another. Some women expect that men will automatically understand their intentions and their queries, but the simple fact is this: we speak an entirely different language from you, as you do, us. Sadly, we wind up resorting to this stuff as a desperate measure to acquire a clear answer from men, when in fact, in many cases we don't get that either. Men do the same exact things to us and we wind up feeling as confused and hurt as you do. We are equally mystified by male behavior because we don't relate in the same way as you do (You being the collective "you", and not you personally). Nonetheless, every one winds up confused and hurt in some way, shape or form.
This changes as people age and acquire more life experience, although in some cases some people - male and female - don't change and still operate in this fashion. Life experience, several failed relationships down the road and other issues do tend to teach us that a previous mode of behavior is no longer workable and we have to find new ways of communicating our feelings and needs. If you are unsure of what is going on, seriously - and I recommend this, then ask the girl a question about it. She might be shocked and not know what to do with this, but it will force her to think and learn to answer you more clearly. Establishing a dialogue with a woman is key to any relationship - and it benefits both of you.
And it works... I will admit that when I was younger I played my own games, too. What the hell did I know about life, love or myself, honestly? Not much. A few bad experiences in life woke me up, and then, I was blessed when my 2nd hubby entered my life who was unlike any other man I ever knew, including my first husband. When I was unclear or played a game, he called me on it and let me know what he felt. When I did something wonderful he said something positive. At first I was shocked. No man ever talked to me this way. I spent years trying to understand what my other partners were doing or what they meant when they said something, but it was always weird. I was so confused half the time. But not my husband. He is direct with me and honest. He speaks to what he feels - good and bad, and I have learned to be the same. I speak to what I feel, and there is no bullshit between us. The end result? A healthy honest relationship with a man I can truly say is my best friend, even if he says things that hurt me or piss me off at first. He has taught me the true meaning of communication, owning my self and my words, respecting and honoring his feelings and that is key in ANY relationship.
Have faith. There are others out there who want to communicate as you do. Don't give up.
2006-09-15 21:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm that way, I apologize. Sometimes I'm confused about guys too, yet at the same time I love them to death. I'm not saying that about all guys. i think guys and girls misunderstand each other sometimes.
A girl can be acting up on one thing when really something else is bothering them. It might have nothing to do with the whim they tell u about. Deep down all they need is assurance that u love them: tell them u love them, give a hug, listen to them, ask them what's REALLY bothering them. If that's not the reason they r just *******.
2006-09-15 21:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by baby doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MIND GAMES, its all about the mind games. think of it as checkers, she is the king free to move were ever at any time and do as she pleases. On the other hand, guys are restricted to a specail color and a specail way we move. But if we were to get to the end by playing mind games along with her but keeping it discreet as so she doesn't send the rest of the army or her after you, you can become a king and move freely to follow her with out much problem. Its just a matter of mind games to be played.
2006-09-15 21:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see you are up tight. we women are the way we are because of some of you men. we are unpredictable because you men are predictable and that is what makes it fun. we know what you will do but you cant guess us... we don't get our kicks off well some of us don't but you guys are the ones who scamper off and pout . be a man and take it like a man....
2006-09-15 21:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow - she got you good, huh? Women have to keep you guys on your toes - if not we get played for fools. Unpredictable we like the attention we get, but we are not always interested in more then a friendship.
2006-09-15 21:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
women are unpredictable because they're constantly thinking and changing their minds. i bet the girl who was flirting with you thought about dating you a hundred times, then talked herself out of it. women do that a lot... they have trouble making decisions because they overthink things. most (by most, i mean decent) girls don't realize that they're doing it. it's just how women are... there's not really any changing it, just as guys can't change to do what women think they should do (like read their minds)...
sorry for the bad news, but that's how they are. you could ask her about it, though, the way you asked us. that might at least clarify what she was thinking...
2006-09-15 21:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by jenn w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a way to deffend our selfs from getting hurt...See, all men are interested into the girls they dont have and that is way every girl(or just the smart ones) are trying to play hard to get so they can win the heart of the guy they like...But you see,the thing is when they win that heart(just like the guys) they dont want it anymore...
2006-09-15 21:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Princess Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well because you are dealing with girls,not women. Not all of us are that way. It goes the same way for a guy too. Find yourself a real woman. and you wont have these issues.
2006-09-15 21:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that women want men to know what they are thinking at times sometimes women are shy... but men are more upfront about what they want... when women say things like i think of you as a friend they really dont know what they want...
2006-09-15 21:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Pepperpaige 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's part of the game, learning the unknown, a mystery, catch me if you can type thing in grown up fashion
2006-09-15 21:11:25 · answer #11 · answered by Ju Lover Supreme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋