Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and I can't imagine life without him. In the beginning of our relationship, neither of us had had much experience before and were really hesitant about the physical aspect. However, we overcame that pretty quickly and got pretty far into it. We didn't go all the way, but we came pretty close. We're both Christians and we evaluated our behavior and decided that we weren't doing the right thing at all. He said that he wants me to be the one too keep him accountable and be the responsible one.
So, he brought up the topic again and I feel like I am supposed to be the responsible one and say that we have to stick with what we said we would. Sometimes, though, it seems like I'm denying him something that he wants so badly and it seems like I don't care about him enough. I have no idea what I should do.
2006-09-15 13:25:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically he put the ball in your court. He doesn't want you to do anything unless you want to. By telling you he want's you to be the responisble one, he's giving you every opportunity and reason to turn him down if that's what you want to do. He told you that so you don't feel any pressure to do something you'll feel guilty about later, and possibly harbor resentment towards him for. You obviously know what he want's to do, he is a guy after all, christian or not, and his hormones tell him to do one thing when his religion tells him to do another.
2006-09-15 13:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to the time that you do both go far it should be a choice between the two of you and him making you responsable is not fair to put upon you so he needs to tell you what he wants out of this and go from there good luck from a fellow christian
2006-09-15 20:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to what he says, unfortunately it's usually easier for women to control their sexual urges than it is for men. So if he says help him to be accountable then help him....stop looking for things, you're reading too much into this. He wants you, duh! but at the same time it conflicts w/you and his religious beliefs so the both of you have an agreement, just honor it. Women read too much into things and this causes problems, most men say what they mean and mean what they say. Don't complicate things....
2006-09-15 20:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to learn about being responsible for himself. Dont do anything with him if you are doing it out of guilt beacuse you will only feel worse later.
2006-09-15 20:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he did the right thing by making the agreement with you. Hold him accountable for it and hold yourself just as accountable. Why not ask the same of him too..... I'm sure you have urges.
2006-09-15 20:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has alot to do with your intentions. Do you plan on marrying his man? Is your faith stronger than the urge to have sex? If it is your belief to wait.. then all means wait until you know each other better.
2006-09-15 20:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him ure not ready... try to discuss how you two can over come this... the sex isnt the most important thing. Just as you both are happy thats all it matters.
2006-09-15 20:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question's answer would totaly depend on how old you were. if you are really into your religion then keep to the rules. if he's the one then he should have no problem waiting to.........if you are worth it to him.
2006-09-15 20:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by young republican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seem like a chapter book .. too long to read.
2006-09-15 20:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by twiinsgirl316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre talking about sex then do it wit protection of course.
2006-09-15 20:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋