he complained of not enough sex, we did a few times a week.I complained about no communication, he never ask me how was my day,and didn't like to listen to me.Never gave me company,i always felt alone, and sad.He expected sex , if he didn't get it, he call me a cold woman, but to me a basic of a good sex starts with
friendship , like communicating ,sharing life together.I always explained that to him,but he never understood,i guess.I didn't like
to have sex most of the times, because there was no intimacy LIKE verbal communication,that would have excite me more.He always called me a cold woman,what do u think ?
2006-09-15 13:25:45 · 23 answers · asked by suave l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you broke up...then it doesn't matter who was right. Move on and find yourself a man that can communicate and give you what you need and deserve from a relationship. But remember...it's give and take.
2006-09-15 13:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a great point. If you aren't connected through communication....not much else will work. Each of you should care about the other enough to ask about the little things and then be easily able to enjoy the big things such as sex. In all relationships both sides have to make compromises. Of course, you and you alone ~ know how much compromising is enough.
As for him calling you a cold woman....I have heard guys call women much worst than that...but, truly....for a guy to call a lady a name at all...is disrespectful no matter what the situation.
You deserve someone that is more balanced with you in life. You will mend and carry on to find Mr. Incredible.
Good Luck ~
Laurie
2006-09-15 20:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by mystery46122003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple He seem to be a man with just sex on his mind You know communication is the best among most things. Without that nothing can be accomplish. You are right . Life hold so many precious things other than sex. The name calling is nothing just being immature. Look at yourself in the mirror and say I am worth more that sex and expect more. Never let a person change you into someone other than yourself. Stay the kind and considered person you are and everything else will fall in place.
2006-09-15 20:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by babymadison61904 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a selfish pig, who would make your life miserable if you stay w/him! Don't go back with him. You are very much right. If a guy expects you to "want" him all the time, then he has to give you something to "want". Sure doesn't sound like he gave you much at all! You can do better. I used to have a guy like that and I dumped him. There are better ones out there. If he doesn't give a sh!t about you, or your day, then he's not worthy of spreading your legs for! Catch what I mean?! Good luck, and I hope you move on WITHOUT HIM.
2006-09-15 20:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having sex with him a few times a week is more than enough in exchange for what little he offered you in the way of communication, affection, sharing, loving. It sounds like he is a very selfish, egotistical, cold and controlling person. I think your better off cutting him loose. Being around someone like that can be very damaging to one's self-esteem. Good luck to you.
2006-09-15 20:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two just weren't right for each other. Although as a woman I can understand why you would be turned off if there is only sex and no communication.
2006-09-15 20:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were right, marriage isn't just about sex. He shouldn't have done you this way, sounds like he just wants a "sex" partner. One thing marriage needs is commitcation, and I've never found "miss right".He could have asked how your day was,ect. I'm not sure if you cosider me mature or not,but it looks like a good idea not your not together anymore, there are other "fish" in the sea.
2006-09-15 20:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by kb9kbu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constant battle between men and women. I try and do all the things you need and my wife still has no sexual desire, yet it was incredible in the beginning. But you do need someone to show you that they love you and I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. If all He was interested in was getting sex you are probably better off without him. It doesn't matter who was wrong or right, both of your needs should be being met.
2006-09-15 20:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Prophecy+History=TRUTH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up! Keep it that way. Sounds like a very selfish man and you're better off without him. A relationship takes to people working together. Give and take. Sometimes you give more, sometimes you get more. It all works out in the end. Time to move on and find a mature man who knows what a real relationship is.
2006-09-15 20:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by michaelks63 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right, fully you. I hate guys like that (no offence) all they want is to fool around, never date a boy like that again! He only likes how you look and dosn't like what you truley are! He never asks how your day is? Well, thats redundant! I hate when this happens to people! By words that you say, you sound like an uncold woman, you can either pick between one of theese men:
A Pig or a Dog..... Which one will you choose! Men stink and thats that! Again you are the one who is right not him!!! Trust me on this one, he will realise what a great person you are and like you fully later but you will be with someone else and he will be on his wittle knees begging for your love again!
2006-09-15 20:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋