My 7 year old is so outgoing and independent. She has gone through pre-school,pre-k, k & 1st grade perfectly and actually loving school. All of a sudden 2 weeks into school she cries all day and says she misses me. There is nothing wrong at home and I know nobody is picking on her. Does anybody know any tricks to help seperation anxiety???
2006-09-15 13:19:47 · 15 answers · asked by LG 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I had the same thing happen to my child, But she was 6. I had a meeting with the school and they found her a job to do that none of the other kids got to do. It made her feel special and taught her that she had a special responsiblity to go to school everyday. Hope this helps, and just keep telling her that she is strong and there is nothing to worry about. But go see the school. just maybe theres a bully.
2006-09-15 13:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by mariposa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like seperation anxiety to me but you know your child best. My son went through this also in first grade. All of a sudden, he hated school; he was sick; his head hurt; etc. Truth of the matter was his teacher was big ole WITCH! She never picked on him directly but him withdrawing from school was the anxiety he was having from watching her pick on the other children, namely BOYS. His grades dropped considerably becuase he was scared of raising his hand or asking her a question. Mom - put on your detective cap. Ask other parents how their child like the new teacher, the kids, the new class, etc. If that doesn't work, call her teacher. Show up unexpected and see if you can maybe "easedrop" on the teacher while class is going on. I'm sure it's nothing big, just changes that perhaps your daughter is not used and definitely not comfortable with. Good luck. :)
2006-09-16 00:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by ameliabedelia_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dropping her off at school, walking her to her room, saying goodbye, and then showing up at recess, and at lunch. Pick her up when classes are out. Arrange with the prinicple and staff, and make this a matter of fact " I just happened to be around" type of thing. Volunteer for teachers assistant or any other part time position to make being at school seem like a normal, every day thing that people do. After a little while, she will not even notice...
2006-09-15 20:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by cowgurl_bareback 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby, send a little note she will take out at lunch, my 9 year old LOVES that. Anyway I would speak to her teacher about helping her to make a new friend in the class. Can she switch tables, be "paired up" with someone at lunch?? You know, as soon as she has a "best" friend--her school world will be a different place, good luck!!
2006-09-15 21:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by POPPY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it would seem strange that it would be separation anxiety at this stage how do you know she is not been picked on did she tell you that she isn't maybe she is scared to tell you that she is. maybe also she does not like the teacher some teachers can be quiet nice but if you get a student and a teacher that clashes then there could be troubles some teacher may take a disliking to your child and may have to be moved. When I went to school I was lucky that most of my teacher's liked me until 6th grade he took a disliking to me and picked on me and went out of his way to embarrassed me. Until I got so upset I went home crying and mum got me to tell her what was going on. I did not tell her at first due to the fact I was worried it would make things worse but mum went and saw the head master and he pulled me out of this class right away. Talk to your little girl and also talk to her friends as well. Maybe even talk to her friends parents as her friends may have told them something but may not tell you as your child may have asked them not to.
2006-09-15 20:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if ur dghtr went from all the time happy to this mode- it could be attention, it could be someone is bothering her, it could be something goin on in the home/relative. The best thing to do, it to talk to her, hav a mother and dghtr talk, dont be aggressive, but listen to what she has to say!!- let her kno that u r there for her!- ask her how was her day, not just that day, but everyday!!!- children want to kno that there parents care about them. Give her that attention b4 someone else does!dont wait to late!!
2006-09-15 20:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by re r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a problem at school.
If no one is picking on her, does she have a new teacher, maybe it is the teacher or she wants her previous teacher.
'Play School' or role play with her one day at home. You can pretend to be your daughter and she will tell you what to do. Role Play through all classes, breaks, lunch and she should reveal something to you.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-09-15 21:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think separation anxiety is her problem, I think it's an issue at school. have you tried talking to her teacher? sometimes they know if a student is having "social" problem with another student, sometimes not. ask one of her friends, they might be able to tell you. either that, or it could just be that the work is harder.
2006-09-15 20:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure no one is picking on her? A lot of kids won't tell their parents when this is happening. Talk to her teacher. Maybe she just doesn't like him/her, or they might not be very nice.
2006-09-15 20:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she have a fellow classmate that lives near by that she can play with after school?
Or maybe ask her who some of her friends are in her class and have a couple of them over for a play date... she will eventually develop her own social life and become less dependent on you.
Good luck !
2006-09-15 20:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋