I broke up more than two months ago with my girlfriend, because she kissed another guy (a friend of hers) while being drunk. She confessed this to me using the words "almost had sex with him, but realized it was a terrible mistake", to which I told her we were definately over, that she was a backstabber and that I didn't want to have anything to do with her anymore.
The thing is... she was really sorry about the whole thing (tried to apologize a second time and called home), cried a lot (me too), and at first I thought I could handle the break up... but after the second month passed I really realized how much I miss her and love her... I'm starting to doubt I'll ever find a girl as sweet and good match as she is to me.
We sometimes run into each other now, but our conversations are ackward, and I'm not sure if she's now over me or wants to get back together.
Should I try to get over her, as painful as it is, or should I try to get back? Would you forgive her in my situation?
2006-09-15 12:24:08 · 7 answers · asked by Eclipse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just feel so empty and depressed lately... I'm not sure I will ever find someone to love again...not as much as I loved her...
2006-09-15 12:25:29 · update #1
I don't know if it was only a kiss... she *did* change her story... I want to believe her
2006-09-15 12:34:57 · update #2
You didn't say how long the two of you were together. That would make a difference in how long it would take you to get over the relationship. I am totally against cheating, but maybe in this case, since it was a kiss and she did tell you, you could work things out. Relationships are tough and problems always arise. If you do deceide to work things out, I would have a conversation with her about her drinking. It seems to me that if she cannot control herself when she drinks, she should start with controlling the alcohol she is consuming. If you do work things out, you are going to have issues with trusting her, which she will need to understand. My boyfriend and I have made an agreement not to go to clubs and bars without each other. It usually just spells trouble. Most people are out looking to hook up and when you add alcohol, it just impairs your judgement and sets you up for trouble. If you really love her and think this was a one time thing, and nothing more than a kiss. I say try to talk things out, but definetly with some changes. Good Luck.
2006-09-15 12:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look been thare done this thing . get off your *** right now and go tell her these same words you've told us on here . don't be arrogant or judgmental just tell her you cant live without her and you want to start again and let her mistake stay in past anyway she did confess this to you and most of us guys just wouldn't have told anything . you ll be lucky if she will go back with you if not then move on and i mean leave her alone and find another but if she returns then make it better than before and try loving her more strongly this time so next drunken benge she will have strength to avoid those temptations .
2006-09-15 19:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by sigmond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are emotional creatures. Try sending her flowers and telling her you miss her. Your going to have to pursue her again. But if she loves you,.. it will all work out fine. I bet she told you about the episode because she was trying to explain that she needed more attention from you. Sometimes you guys just need a kick in the head like that!!
2006-09-15 19:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sue ZQ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ugh, that is such highschool love... get out there and find the woman of your dreams who knows if she can handle her alcohol or not and who knows how to say nooooo. I know that's not the answer that you wanted to read, but i have some experience under my belt.
2006-09-15 19:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by el 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that she was drunkiand i dont think that she ment to kiss that guy like i said she was drunk and didnt mean it if i was you go up to her and talk to her and try and get back together if you really love her and if you do get back her try and trust her aswell
2006-09-15 19:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by yates1239 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she prolly fcuked him. make her find another girl for a 3some. she doesnt sound like a keeper tho. you'll never be able to trust her or stop thinking about it
2006-09-15 19:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by tim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a drinking problem. deal with that before you consider any other kind of behavior problems she has. if she is this way now, she will always be a heartbreak for you.
2006-09-15 19:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by coffeebabyea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋