When im about to ask a girl out i get nervous and chicken out. Is there a way to boost my confidence and not care what anyone around me thinks?
2006-09-15 12:08:51 · 13 answers · asked by Vessel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-09-15 12:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There Are Many Things That Could Help You
1. - Treat Women As They Are No Different From Men
2. - Tell Yourself This Is Not A Test, Just An Average Chat
3. - Tell A Joke, Break The Ice and Try And Forget Why Your So Nervous
4. - Never Act, Just Think First
5. - Remember Theres Plenty More Fish In The Sea
2006-09-15 12:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by ˆ îmago ˆ» 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have partly answered your own question... a good way to boost your self confidence is to stop worrying about what other people think.
Firstly, unless you are a mind reader you will never know what other people think and secondly, they are probably worrying about what other people think too. The only person who's opinion of you that you are really going to know, is your own opinion, and the only peopl's opinion you should care about is the people you love and care about and if they don't or won't reciprocate your feelings you should try to stop caring about them.
Dealing with females is easy, try to stay away from cliches for example, instead of 'If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?' something like 'You look stunning, can I buy you drink?' would probably be a lot more effective. Don't take yourself too seriously, if she replies 'no thank you' a smile and 'OK, do you want to buy me a drink then?' shows you have determination and a sense of humour.
2006-09-15 12:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by gremlin_trees 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I posted a picture on Y!A 30 minutes ago thinking it would boost my confidence, it didn't. At all. People pointed out flaws I didn't even know I had. I think the best way to gain confidence is to just learn to love yourself and not worry what other people's opinions are you. You are beautiful, and if you tell yourself that and believe it, your self confidence will sky rocket.
2016-03-27 03:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about it, Guys have to do everything. Us girls are not as mean as you think we are. A girl likes a confident guy. One that is not afraid to ask her out. Even if I didn't like you, or know you that well, if you had the guts to ask me out I would not say no just because of that. Statistics are that 91% of guys who ask out women are told yes( simply because of the fact that we like to be flattered.) Seriously, you have nothing to worry about. I mean it-ask her out! You actually have nothing to lose. Just make sure you do it when there is not alot of people around so you get an un biased answer. Good luck!!!
2006-09-15 12:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by cjsipe24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are a few things that you can do to boost your ego and your confidence...and i didnt really see any above...if you want self confidence it may take some time sometimes self confidence isnt the easiest to come by... i would seggest using positive self affermations...such as picking three things weekly to compiment yourself on and become comforable with you so that you can be comforable going after the things that you want...such as i care about others feelings...i like that i am shy...i am smart...i can ask someone out when im interested...i am interesting....i like getting to know others....or you can even come up with some affirmations just for asking someone out just to sorta prep your confidence right before you ask them....i can ask her out...she may be interested in me...its ok to be turned down because there is someone out there for me...what ever you may choose try to make it as positive as possible so its helping you take the step...and remember that there are ppl out there who find you interesting and if they dont and they do turn you donw do you really want to be around them anyways...
2006-09-15 12:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by mytedominatrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is!!!!!
you simply put yourself in a state of mind, where you dont care what anyone around you thinks......
ask yourself this, after looking carefully (descreetly!) at the guys around you, ask yourself, why him?
Then (fashion slave, twa.t, whatever your opinion) Make your self Him.
2006-09-15 12:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by ben b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this book:
The Magic of Thinking Big.
It's wonderful...it's worked for decades too.
2006-09-15 12:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use you the fact that you are shy when you ask that girl out. Be honest. I'm a little shy but i've been meaning to ask you .... you fill in the rest.
2006-09-15 12:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by A K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SUCK IN YOUR GUT STAND TALL AND ASK HER . DONT BE A WIMP
2006-09-15 12:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋