i have a daughter who has a birthday planned for tonight to go out. ok, two weeks ago i promised to watch my grandbaby for her so she can go party. well i watch my grandbaby almost everyday cause the state pays me to watch her for daycare for my daughter when she works. well i also have a back problem so thats why i dont have full time employment and i be tired alot cuz i always have the baby. well i told her i didnt want to babysit tonight cause i was really tired and like i said i always have my grandbaby. besides my daughter dont spend alot of time with her anyway. was i wrong for telling her no. and she is really mad at me.
2006-09-15 12:04:35 · 19 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your health comes first !!
The old fashioned rule of thumb was "Always have a back up"
I guess you daughter will learn to network alittle better and perhaps stop relying totaly on you to solve all her child care issues......after all you have a full time job chasing after a little people all day ..... most parents will tell you that will wreck health person real fast ...you've been doing it with a medical condition .... You Rock !!!
Kids are never to old to learn another thing or two !! You just showed her how to plan for the "What If" factor ...... job well done !
Feel Better ... rest up!
2006-09-15 12:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're so tired that your health or the safety of the baby is at risk, then it can't be helped. But if your're just tired, then you are wrong. This whole thing has been in the planning for 2 weeks because you said you would watch the baby, so you should watch the baby unless there is a good reason not to.
2006-09-15 19:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should have talked to her earlier int he week so she could make other arrangements. It's a bit passive aggressive to spring this on her at the last minute. If it's HER birthday, then it's just plain mean!!
It would be more fair to watch the baby tonight but then work out a better child care plan for the future.
2006-09-15 19:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by 0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're actually wrong.
You see, the grand baby is your daughters child therefor, her responsibility.
BUT, you didn't just say you'd watch her for her birthday, you promised; so you've broken a promise to your daughter.
I understand that you're tired and always watching the baby but the day you chose to not want to watch her is the day she had planned to celebrate her birthday.
If you feel you're watching her child too much, you shouldn't have promised to do so in the first place.
And, when you're watching her child at least you're getting paid.
I don't blame you for saying no because it is her kid, I just think it's wrong of you to break a promise to your own child.
2006-09-15 19:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was one more day really going to hurt? It is her birthday and she had plans. If you would have told her "no" a couple weeks ago, she could have arranged for other child care. I have 3 grandchildren, 2 daughters and I would never do that to them. You already knew when you said "yes" that you have the baby a lot because you babysit, and besides, that is your job, you get paid for it. Shame on you.
2006-09-15 19:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand how tiring it is to take care of a baby, but if you made a PROMISE, then you need to stick to it. Remember, your daughter is still learning from you. Don't teach her to break promises.
2006-09-15 19:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by mom2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong telling her no you did a good thing,she has to learn that you need your time .And she needs to know that if she had the baby she has to take cre of the baby and be with the baby now is the time for your Daughter to react like a mother
2006-09-15 19:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, the thing is that you promised her ahead of time that you would. So, she has made plans and trusted that you would babysit for her. I saybabysit for this night, and don't make any more promises if you are not sure you will want to keep them in the future.
2006-09-15 19:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by GeorgiaGurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its her baby and her responsibility as a parent to be the first one to take care of that child, you have the right to do what you want to do and if you feel like you can not safely watch the child because of your health then you shouldn't. She sounds like she has not yet taken the responsibility of a parent yet and she needs to do that and not go out "partying."
2006-09-15 19:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by KindomCome 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you were not wrong. You need to take care of yourself cause is anyting happened to you where you are in the hospital who would your daughter rely on to watch her child since you would not be able to.
2006-09-15 19:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by stubbornmom2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋