So, this girl i used to know some 15 years, we were kids then and all we did was to talk for hours on the phone. then we lost sight of each other and then 2 weeks ago we met again and we stayed up all night long - just talking. By the next day we were sleeping together and now we are spending the weekends together! We have changed very much over the years, she has been married and now has a 4 year old girl. Two days ago she told me she loves me. And now we`ve started to have arguments as if we had been dating fot years! Is it me or is this going waay too fast??? I really like her and I can picture myself next to her for a long time, but actually Im kinda freaked out sometimes...
2006-09-15 11:46:00 · 5 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, we have talked about how things are going out... she was afraid Id take her for a slut for how fast things happened... but Ive assured i dont even remotely think so...
2006-09-15 11:51:20 · update #1
Waaaayyyyy too fast! She is used to being married so she may be pushing for intimacy too fast. Tell her you care for her but that you want to make sure that you really get to know each other again. Tell her that you don't want to ruin your possibilities by rushing things. She may have some emotional damage from the divorce that involves fear of abandonment or low self-esteem.
2006-09-15 12:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by 0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same story...my bf and I went to high school together and always flirted, but nothing ever happened. After graduation I never heard anything about him again. Ten years later we met up and were basically inseperable from that point on. We moved in together after 5 months and everything is fantastic. It's all in how you feel and if you are ready for it or not. Follow your gut and your heart, and you won't make the wrong decision.
2006-09-15 18:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by mamba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've known her for a really long time, and even though you've both changed, obviously the feeling is there. i do think you should take it more slow, but the fact is, you haven't just met her, you've known her for years. let your heart tell you what to do, and enjoy the moment. don't think about what's right or wrong. just let your actions lead the way.
2006-09-15 18:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to slow down step back.Get to know each other better
2006-09-15 18:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by flylilangels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slowwwwww.
2006-09-15 18:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by socalicd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋