how do you react when your boyfriend tells you he's been invited out of town for the weekend with some friends for a concert and his ex is going along too? Do you trust them enough to let them go or get upset at the fact that he didn't bother to invite you to come along?
2006-09-15 11:12:25 · 17 answers · asked by megans_98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should react by stating your disappointment and sadness that he did not ask you to go along. A good relationship has nothing to do with the ex and trust should not be an issue. The issue is if you are his girlfriend then you should be going along, regardless. If you were unable to go then he should offer to stay home or go somewhere else with you. You should come first regardless of circumstances. That said, take a deep breathe, tell him what you feel and his reaction ought to determine whether he is worth sticking around for or not. This is a great test of the worthiness of your relationship. Good luck.
2006-09-16 18:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by MelanieMediator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset, but try not to show it. Be really happy for him. At least he has told you about it. Keep your eyes open in case there is something fishy going on, but don't show it. Because if there isn't anything fishy, you could ruin your relationship with your boyfriend.
Yuo could also just confront about how you feel, but also tell him that you know you're being silly and that you trust him, but for some reason you feel a bit jealous. Tell him gently - don't accuse him of anything, cos he hasn't done anything wrong.
2006-09-16 21:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by lakmii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't invite you unless he's just tagging along. If they invited him then its up to them to invite you. His ex being there may have NOTHING to do with it or it might. If you trust him which you have not given a reason you shouldn't then let him go. In the mean time have your own girls night and have fun.
2006-09-15 11:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if hes going with his friends and didnt invite you i would be mad as hell. Why wouldnt he invite you?? would make me think because his ex is going to be there. Guess he doesnt really give a **** about you if he doesnt want you there too. sorry hon find a new man.....hes not grown enough for you.
2006-09-15 11:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things were fine until you said the ex is going along. I would be hurt and not want him to go or I would want to go too. Its a hard one, if you trust him enough then it wouldn't matter, but since your asking us ......
2006-09-15 11:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he loves you he should think of your feelings, this to me doesnt sound right..
Let me tell you a little about my life..
I had ex's but when i lost my intrest i allowed my husband now to take care of them..tell them what he needed to get rid of them..but it becomes different when you have a child so with my ex husband i talk, but my husband and ex get along ok but they are both males..
See your situation sounds like he is not giving you a choice and also setting you up for something bad..sounds like he is not the right guy, and maybe he should just be with her..
You have to think of the big picture..and him acting up now because believe it or not it comes out in marriage to
2006-09-15 11:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ready for just a short relationship with him...be prepared for the worse cause i think going out with ex's aren't that [stable]..he might get back with her or it's just that i am thinking to much.If ur lucky there just friends trying to have fun.But not including getting back with his ex.OH, and tell him how you really feel about that or anything else.
2006-09-17 18:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by BRIAN T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have asked you to go along and if you couldn't go then he shouldn't go. It has nothing to do with his ex going, it is only proper behavior when your in a relationship. In this case he is putting your relationship behind spending time with his friends.
2006-09-15 11:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right if he didn't invite you! He must have something to hide if he didn't invite you, it's only common courtesy and common sense to invite your GF/BF if you are invited to an event where both sexes will be there!
2006-09-15 11:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I mean, why didn't he invite you in the first place. his ex is going but you can't??? why didnt he veer invite you? doesnt he like spending time with you???
2006-09-15 11:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by ND36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋