do people really get over something that they regret doing?

Question

what do you do if you have done something that you wish you had not and could land you in serious trouble if you told the truth

i did something which i ended up getting arrested for i cant get over it and its ruining my life there is no one i can talk to for fear of getting into trouble will i get over it and get on with my life

Answer 1

With me, regret is only a temporary thing. I ask God for forgiveness, and even more importantly, I make sure that I have learned something from that experience. Perhaps I gained wisdom or insight of a sort through it. Perhaps I will not conduct myself in that manner, say those things, etc anymore.

When I take something positive away from a situaton and make that a part of me, I stop regretting it, because even the worst parts of my life have contributed in a good way to who I am.

Answer 2

Honey, what on earth did you do? I saw one of your other questions said that you got arrested for something you didn't do, but now you're saying you did?In order to get answers, we are going to have to know the facts. I don't have the answers for everything, but if you would like to contact me and let me know your situation, maybe I can help a little?
I promise confidentiality, I won't tell any one anything.

Whatever you did, you seem to be beating yourself up about it an awful lot, and I think that you are making things worse than they are. Don't you think you'll feel better if you come clean, rather than having this weigh you down for the rest of your life?

You can get over something by not allowing it to rule your life and impede upon all your waking hours.

And remember the old saying, 'confession is good for the soul'...just a thought.
Good luck!

Answer 3

In time when its just an unpleasant memory theres a good chance that you will see it as good luck in disguise. We all desire to be fully functioning, good people and members of society even people who regularly break the law and when this is compromised it can be very very distressing. A counsellor can help you repair your feelings. They work under confidentiality and only keep brief notes to remind themselves where they are and protect you however they would have to tell teir supervisor if you disclosed a crime involving for example serious harm ie gbh, murder or sexual assault. We punish oursel;ves enough with our own guilt complexes. Whatever it was you certainly wont do it again thats for sure

Answer 4

Ive done things Ive regretted, but with time i feel less guilty and in the end its all forgotten about. If its something serious that you've done, try talking to a friend that you really trust, a problem shared is a problem halved.

Answer 5

If you told the truth and got arrested...you have already made things right with God ...what a thing to do...that took a lot and you should applaud your own true character to come forth and take the heat..most people could never do that...Just learn that if God and Jesus forgive you,...no one else matters...leave it in Their hands...and the rest will fall into place.

Answer 6

so you made a mistake who hasn't, the question is have you learned from it and would you do it again. You have to tell the truth then you can get on with your life, take the punishment and if your truly sorry your family and friends will stand by you, and it will make you a better person.

Answer 7

You can talk to someone about it in confidence. doctors, counsellors, psychologists - they all have a duty to respect your confidentiality. Also when you go for one on one counselling - you have the adding protection of being able to deny saying anything later. It is what we call "no witnesses" counselling - as opposed to group therapies. You need to explore with some help - the reasons why you did wrong - maybe then you can forgive yourself, sleep at night and move on.

Answer 8

It would depend on what i had done,if i had put someone in danger i would tell and face the consequences,but you can get over doing something wrong,we all have skeletons in the cupboard,it's how you feel about it that matters,and if you can live with your conscience or not,what ever it is good luck

Answer 9

I have lived with a personal regret for about 35+ years, concerning a member of my family. I believe what I did helped to shape their personality to a certain extent. I have NEVER forgiven myself. Neither have I come clean! That's a great question

Answer 10

I don't have regret-or at least, I try not to. Why regret what you can't change? No use crying over spilled milk. If you spend all your days stressing over what could have been, you'll never get what could be coming.