If my girlfriend and I are allowed to be with one other person each, so we each essentially each have two lovers, each other plus one other, then can this really be considered cheating? We are not doing this yet, but seriously considering it. If you feel it is okay, what other rules do you think we need to place upon the situation?
2006-09-15 11:02:52 · 14 answers · asked by Tulsa Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My understanding is that if both partners are upfront about it, honest about it and okay with it then it's not considered cheating. The "cheating" definition comes in when the lies and betrayal of expectations start. How can it be cheating if you're not misleading the other person?
IMHO open relationships can lead to a whole different set of problems, but that's for another question. :)
In terms of rules, I think it would be up to you and your partner to come up with those. The more well defined the "rules," the less chance for hurt feelings.
2006-09-15 11:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by writerchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's called an open relationship. It seems to work well for some people. You need to lay down ground rules for each other though, the whens, hows and whys. What are you comfortable with? What is she comfortable with? Is the other person also your girlfriend? Also always make sure that your second lover is fully aware of the situation, so that no misunderstanding occur.
2006-09-15 18:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by fleekyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay in a relationship with your partner, don't add a 3rd or 4th person to the mix. Yes, it sounds really cool, and hot, and exciting, but the point is -- do you want another man's hands on her? Do you want her to want another man, other than you? Do you want her thinking about this man, while she's with you? It's just not a good idea. Of course, if all you're interested in is banging, then go for it. But I think you are short-changing yourself if you do.
2006-09-15 18:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You paid to much attention to Clinton while he was in office. You are with someone, that should be it, no and's if's or but's about it. It may agree this is okay with each of you. Its still cheating tho, you have not remained faithful to each other.
2006-09-15 18:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone's definition of cheating is different. it varys from relationship to relationship. cheating is when you do something with another person and your partner doesnt know about it and they get really mad and dump. that's what cheating is for me. but if you and your gf wanna see other people than obviously to you and ur gf it's not. I call it swinging, but whatever.
2006-09-15 18:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yoiu cant tell the lover you love them and it has to be onenight stands maybe one week max if it goes pass you two will seperate untill youve pursued that relationahip as far as you disere. i think thats the best system i ve ever heard, ive been wanting to do that for years.
2006-09-15 18:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to do that, then you both should be free agents. Not tied to each other as b/f and g/f. It will never work out .
2006-09-15 18:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no kissing
if the you call the gf or she calls you, you answer no matter what you're doing or who you're with
no gifts to or from "the other ones"
you should meet each others others, even if they don't know who they're meeting (just introduced as friends)
ALWAYS use protection!!!!!!!!!!!! (may even want to get tested occasionaly. sux, but price you might want to pay)
2006-09-15 18:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
2006-09-15 18:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it's only "cheating" if your partner doesn't approve.
2006-09-15 18:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋