Ok, so last night I got really drunk and I slept with this friend of mine I had not seen since high school. That was the second guy I ever slept with in my LIFE.
Now, I am embarrased cause I met his dad while laying there in his bed (and apparently I gave him a huge hickey too), slept with him when his friend (whom I had just met btw) was in the other room and I am pretty sure the whole house heard us!!
Should I feel bad?? I dont know if that matters to the guys but I don't want to be 'downgraded' in my character just because of a little slip like this one. I don't regret it, I just regret the timing of the whole thing. Im a seriously good girl and I have no idea how I let this happen... PLEASE HELP!!!
PS: Please don't be cruel! Thats the last thing I need right now!
2006-09-15 11:02:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hold your head high girl! If you don't have regrets about doing it then who cares who heard?
2006-09-15 11:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi La Diosa,
I know exactly where you are coming from and you are right.....people being cruel is the last thing you need right now. I am here to help, not to be critical. Most people on this planet understand that people that are in a drunk state of mind.....don't really comprehend "everything" that is going on. Secondly, I assure you....the guy you were with will be held partly responsible on his end because he was one that offered the opportunity to do it where others might have been able to easedrop. Guys usually carry with them a trait that most girls are without. That trait is the "living on the edge" trait. Most guys love the excitement and the rush of......"getting caught in the act". Most guys wouldn't want it to happen.....but, still gets excited thinking it could possibly happen. I know that sounds wierd but, it's true. I get nervous when I think about having sex and getting caught....the guy plays if off...."we won't....yada yada". Next thing you know it's over and we didn't get caught..whew! However, there are times where you might. In cases like that....girls have all sorts of feelings about who they are, what they did, and how people will perceive them now that it happened.
You my friend are pounding away at yourself over this. I am sure you are a good girl and mistakes just kinda happen....but, don't let this situation tear you up inside. You need to see what things you could have done differently.....face it....accept it....and then most of all FORGIVE yourself for acting out of passion/or drunkeness....
For yourself ~ give this situation some time. Soon enough you will probably hear things around. It will give you a general idea about how everything went down has affected people surroundind the situation. Then, you will know in your mind what you should do next.
Good Luck to you ...... and I hope everything works out.
Sincerely,
~ Laurie ~
2006-09-15 11:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by mystery46122003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, girlie, calm down. You just need a little space..you'll feel crappy and stupid for a while, but remember everyone is human and makes mistakes, I'm assuming you're pretty young, so you will probably make many more. Don't be too hard on yourself, just make sure when you're going out to drink you have some good girlfriends around that will see to it that you get HOME and not with some stupid dude, also, try not to drink so much, that way your judgement won't be impared and you want to be in control of yourself at all times, trust me I know from experience. You are normal, so don't sweat it too much, just duck next time you see his dad!!! :)
2006-09-15 11:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl dont stress yourself, like you say your a good girl and you dont regret it so no worries this guys friend means nothing to you and if he does become a friend of yours then he wil judge you as a whole not on one time he met you! the hickey was a small mistake though!!! noone can look good with one of those learn to be a little more gentle even at the hight of passion. or hide them!!!!!
2006-09-15 11:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by a127babes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's the way human beings see issues. merely like while a male instructor sleeps with an underage lady he's stated as a pervert, a rapist, creepy. while a girl instructor sleeps with an underage male, even nevertheless some say she is a pedophile, others compliment her, exceedingly the gorgeous ones. issues are reported like "she became giving him the time of his life", "he's now a guy." Double standards fall for this additionally.
2016-10-15 01:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by merkel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes sweetie. If you don't have any interest in this guy, then move on, say I'm sorry, but I was drunk! The last thing you need to do is dwell on it. You can't let things like this make you ashamed, it happens to everyone now and again.
2006-09-15 11:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by fleekyone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not do anything wrong. Just store it away as a happy memory, make a mental not to be careful next time you drink and go on with your life. Don't worry about what other people think.
2006-09-15 11:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend, then his family won't think less of you for sleeping with him. Just because there were other people in the house doesn't matter. You weren't sleeping with them, you were sleeping with him. Chances are everything will be great. Maybe he'll want to be your boyfriend.
Good luck!
2006-09-15 11:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave the dad a hickey? Before or after banging uglies with the son?
2006-09-15 11:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the whole house heard you, then you can expect some talk. If you can't handle drinking any better than that, I think you shouldn't do it.
2006-09-15 11:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋