I dated this guy when i was about 13 shortly after meeting him, he was my first love, but things ended up not working out, as we were so young. About a year on i dated this guy for about 5 months but it ended because i didn't love him. However, now that i've left him i feel more lonely. Since the split, it's been harder to hang out with our mutual friends and i find myself spending more time alone. My recent ex says that he still loves me and hopes we can try again in a while. I've told him i can't just now and not to hold on but he's not listening and is still flirting and everything. It's a few years on from splitting from my 'first love' but in these past years i have just grown to love him more than any other guy, i've never felt this way about anyone. He has now asked me out on a date, and i want to, but everyone keeps telling me i should get back with my more recent ex and i feel pressured, because everyone says he will be too upset if i go with this guy and i'm so confused!!
2006-09-15 10:54:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are both x's so you have no concerns but for yourself
call the one you want to and ask him what he's doing!!!
2006-09-15 10:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question in your post. Doing something because someone else wants you to will never bring fulfillment. If you don't love Guy #2, let him go and do what YOU need to do for YOU.
My humble two cents from having been there. Good luck!
2006-09-15 17:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by writerchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't like him that way anymore and you just wanna be friends. Now for the other guy if you really like him go for it. I know it can be hard when people you care for keeping telling you to go back with your ex but let them know you don't like him that anymore. But most of all follow your gut.
2006-09-15 18:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say do what your heart tells you. If you don't love your recent ex, then don't go back to him b/c you'd just be hurting him and yourself. Him-b/c he loves someone who doesn't love him. And yourself- b/c you will always be wondering what would have been if you were with your first love.
Go back to your first love, if you still really love him.
2006-09-15 17:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mambers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what's more important, what you think or what your friends think? How will the situation affect your social life? It sounds like you live in a small town...get a job out in the city away from your closed circle of friends.
2006-09-15 17:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by want it bad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling lonely only because you feel someone is out of your life that's all. It's a habit thing. It doesn't mean he was good for you because you miss him. It's like smoker who try to quit but goes back to smoking because they can't help it even though it's not healthy for them.
2006-09-15 17:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out on the date, and enjoy your time with your b/f! do not worry about anything except spending time with him on this special date.
2006-09-15 17:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by samhighschoolgrad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what you are felling is a separation from haveing someone to "hold". just wait it out and try to find someone else.
2006-09-15 17:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Justin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay where u r dont make ur boi mad because we guys hate getting hurt just as much as u girls do.
2006-09-15 17:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by broadway_boy7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out w/ the first one or dont go with either of them
2006-09-15 17:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by dee_dee A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋