Why did he lose interest in sex after having sex with me?

Question

He's been looking forward to us having sex, he was always all over me. We finally had sex but why is it he suddenly lost the interest to have sex again? It took another 2 weeks for him to get interested again and that was because I asked him to. I do know that normally guys would want to do it often. Was it me or what?

Answer 1

The thrill of the chase is gone, replaced by the temporary thrill of the conquest, and, it seems likely that that was all he was after.. You don't say how long this relationship has lasted, or, even if it IS a relationship, or, y'all were dating and you finally gave in, and now, he's got what he wanted, and will soon be off looking for another conquest.
And, yes, normally guys are horndogs, I know I was when I was young, but, some are just afraid of going anywhere with a relationship after they get their lusts fulfilled. Ain't saying it's right, just saying it happens.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Hi there,

SEx is a chemistry thing and all honesty did you find it an out of this world experience? as i don't believe that there is anything wrong with you it is obviously something whereby he may have felt that he didn't perform up to your expectations...

Men are funny like that they are so insecure on a lot of levels but because they don't ( as a rule verbalise there emotions) women tend to think there is a problem with them. Im not suggesting that he is playing games but you don't need to either chat to him about if there may be some prob or what i would do is just leave him to his own devices and move on as.

Also i believe in the saying it takes 2 to tango and if he feels that it was not satifying enough for him it's because he didn't push the button's in you as you can't be a good lover on your own.
Good luck

Answer 3

Well, all guys are different. Some like to do it a lot, some don't. Was it a first time for both or either of you? Many people build sex up into something that it isn't, and a first time can be disappointing. Especially if you pay too much attention to TV. Real enjoyment comes when you get to know each other and each finds out what their partner enjoys.

Have you directly asked him about how he feels about it? If not, I'd start there.

Answer 4

A guy in my frat house back in college would work real hard to score with a girl - and then once he did - he would just lose all interest in her - I have know others like that as well - I would just ask him and see what he says.

Answer 5

What a creep he must be to get what he wants and then treat you so rudely. I hope you are not too close to him to see that he must be no good. I can't imagine you thinking there is something wrong with you after he used you like he did and then snubs you and makes you ask for it the next time. He must be extreme in his abuse potential. You know enough to ask this question so you know that you must drop this creep now.

Answer 6

Sure, they would do it over and over again if the so-called-sex for the first time was great.

Discuss it with him and don't just play it by ear if you are planning to stay.

It might not be you but at least find out.

Answer 7

Maybe it was not what he had built it up in his head to be. Ask him that is the only way you will have a real answer.

Answer 8

the only things that would turn me off would be a yeast infection or an std that you could possibly give me. whether those were his concerns or not, i can't say.

Answer 9

It could be that that the thrill of the chase was all he wanted. Or it could be that he had so much build up, it wasn't that good for him.

I would just ask him.

Answer 10

maybe he wasnt that impressed...... usually men want to do it again & again and then again in the morning.... especially being the 1st time with a new woman... ouch... sorry about that...