I need some advice from y'all in serious relationships. I've been dating this girl for 4 months now and the honeymoon stuff has passed. We are definitely on good terms and we value each other's friendship immensely but it feels like I have to work to get her in the mood. She started a second job since we've been dating and it consumes a lot of her time (She probably works 60 hours a week) and she goes home tired. We aren't living together, but we probably stay over at each other's place 3 or 4 nights a week but inevitably she falls asleep in short order. I am all but certain she's not seeing someone else b/c she doesn't have the time and we still text and email each other during the day. My question is why would a girl hold it out from a guy she hit it off with in mind blowing fashion? I want to ask her about it. Is it awkward? Appropriate? Is this the kind of stuff that happens when feelings change or could it be something else?
2006-09-15 10:15:40 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She works 60 hours per week. That's a job and a half! She's gotta be damn exhausted! Relax, she is just tired, and then comes home and has to deal with more sh it. Create an environment where she can relax and have time for herself. Stop texting and e-mailing her so that she looks forward to seeing you and hearing about your day and you about hers when she comes home. Give her some space, some breathing room.
She will come looking for you once she de-stresses.
Odds are, she's just tired.
2006-09-15 10:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most times when a woman is tired it over rides being in the mood. Would you rather have sex with a woman that is to tired to enjoy it or to tired to put forth any effort? Or would you rather she wait until a day off or a time when she is rested, and give 100% toward the mind blowing moments that you enjoy. Try to help her so that she is not so tired. Go over when she is at work and help with household chores, anything so that she has a little more time to spend with you. You can and should talk about it with her but make sure that you do it in a manner so that she does not feel like you are upset that she has not been in the mood or as your question suggests, that her feelings have changed.
2006-09-15 17:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. She is tired. If she is working 60hrs a week then who would want to put out. If this is bothering you so bad then maybe you should talk to her about it. I dont think her feelings have changed the girl is just tired. Try being more romantic or something and just do other things that dont require such physical work! Good luck
2006-09-15 17:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by valentinegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how she feels. if she works that much then shes just worn out. shes tired. tell her how u feel, but be nice about it .
2006-09-15 17:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by CrystalRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont kno buut thnx 4 da pointz
2006-09-15 17:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's what happens when you are living together
Which you SHOULD NOT do until you are married
2006-09-15 17:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋