A friend of mine was just diagnosed with a nonoperative brain tumor and they gave him 6 months to live. I don't know what to say to him or how to act. Should I try and cheer him up and smile when I see him and try not to cry?
2006-09-15 10:11:59 · 39 answers · asked by Jodiejo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
try not to talk about his situation. Just make him happy and enjoy the last 6 months you have with him.
2006-09-15 10:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try, but if you get overwhelmed then tell this friend that you are sorry to get all emotional but the news has made you upset. Then try to talk about other things. Just be there for your friend as the end comes and say goodbye the best way you know how, with love, support and kindness -- and deep fried things.
2006-09-15 10:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the same friend you were before. Let him guide you in what he wants to do. Maybe he wants to go to a movie or just sit and relax and watch TV with you. Maybe he wants to talk about his life, whatever. Just be there for him and love him the same as you always had. Imagine if it were you-you wouldn't want people walking on eggshells around you, but you would still want to make the most of every day you have.
2006-09-15 10:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't always feel like you have to say something. Just ask how they are doing, and what they feel like doing that day you are with them. Then go from there.
When it comes close to the very end, or when you are more comfortable with each other and the reality of his illness, there is something that you can do that will help you part from each other without leaving issues unresolved. Sit down with him and have a conversation that covers the following:
I love you.
Remember when....
I will never forget when.....
Forgive me for....
I forgive you for....
I will miss you.
2006-09-15 10:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advise to you would be totally be yourself.. yes it is hard times and it will be until he passes.. but dont act weird or feel sorry for him.. that is the last thing that he will want anyone to do for him! Just be yourself.. but let him know that you are there for him no matter what! Yeah if you do cry that is normal and he will understand.. Just be his bud! That is all you can do! Try to make him have as much fun as he can ..
2006-09-15 10:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not forget to greet him with "How are you?" While, it certainly brings to mind his illness, I seriously doubt it is far from his mind at this point anyway. It shows you care for his comfort at this stage in his disease, not that you are pointing it out. Truly he will dictate how you should act. I wouldn't cry unless he does, his job is certainly not to comfort you, but you shouldn't be cold either. Too many people are defined by their diseases, be sure to talk to him as you always have, just that he's going through a tough journey. He needs to know you will miss him, and remember him, but for him, not his illness
2006-09-15 10:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-15 10:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Apeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try & make his last 6 months the best ever
2006-09-15 10:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by jediruszkai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its probably ok to cry around them and even with them. It's only natural. But just remember death is apart of life. No one has ever lived forever and no one ever will. Death is not a bad thing.
2006-09-15 10:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just be with him and do all the things he likes to ..just act normal...make sure hug him a lot...we had a co worker who was told that and we had a big party for him ...and soon after that he was gone...so sorry..for this future lose..but also you do something real special with him like even just watching his favorite movies or shows with him..take him somewhere he likes to go..and take plenty of pics/videos of him to remember him by every know and then
2006-09-15 10:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋