Why do women do that?

Question

Ok, so my ex-girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 2 months. We were together for about 5 years. I am now 22 and we started dating at 17. She broke up with me beacuse she felt that she needed to be by herself and expirence things without me. She didnt really have a lot of close friends like I do and i know that bothered her. She said that she wasnt happy in the last few months of our relationship because I started to spend more time with my friends (mostly cause I was sick of always having to comfort her over every little bad thing that happened to her but i didnt want to break up cause of it) She said that I treated her great thats why she would want to try again in the future. She's not looking for the same kind of relationship that we had but wanted to just date for a while before we got back together. Why do women do that? They know they have a good thing, but they let it go anyways We had a great relationship for a long time. Was this a good reason to break up

Answer 1

if its not working out... then theres a better woman out there for you

Answer 2

Translations:
She broke up with me beacuse she felt that she needed to be by herself and expirence things without me. (She found somebody else to experience things with)

She said that she wasnt happy in the last few months of our relationship because I started to spend more time with my friends (You gave her the opportunity to find somebody else)

mostly cause I was sick of always having to comfort her over every little bad thing that happened to her (You werent there for her)

She said that I treated her great (This is a lie, she said it so you wont feel bad)

she would want to try again in the future (If the new guy doesnt work out)

but wanted to just date for a while before we got back together(confirmation that she found someone else)

I am sorry to say that you blew it, 5 years is a long time to not marry someone you love (if you loved her)

Answer 3

To answer that question i would need a lot more space than I've got. But why does the grass seem greener on the other side. Sometimes it is. You don't know until you try. You were her first true love and real relationship. She probably did not want to go through life not knowing what else could be out there. She said that to you because you are her fall back guy. Don't be. She cut you loose. It is your turn also to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Date someone totally different from her.

Answer 4

Yeah-I used to always give up the good guys, too. But you were the only guy she has ever dated seriously. Sometimes we just need to experience new things and discover life. Go out and do stupid things that we always see and hear about but never had the chance to try out. Maybe she felt a little isolated because she hasn't been with anyone for that long but you.

It is possible that she may want things to work out later on. After she finds herself and discover new likes and dislikes in other guys and in life in general. If not then it just wasn't meant to be. But if she wishes to remain friends, that should be better than nothing.

Answer 5

Well the sad truth is that people sometimes taake a long time to figure out what exactly a good thing is. Generally the reason though is due to self esteem issues - she probably suffers from low self esteem and does not deep down believe that she could attract someone great like you.

Also take very seriously her problem with feeling like you did not want to spend time with her. This is the biggest complain and reason why women break up with men. Men think that everything is find and they can come and go as they please and women need men to spend time with them.

Answer 6

They want to test you.. see what u want... she is also going through changes in her life and since u didnt want to be there for her after 5 years of her being needy and then all the sudden she cant be needy then it was too much of a change and the break up was a test and well maybe now she see what life is like with out you and she is unsure how she feels so dating you is the best way to not be lonley but still have freedom to figure out what she does want.

Answer 7

Yes she told you the truth,,she wanted to go out and have some fun..find some friends that she was missing all thouse years..which you cant blame her. Its up to you if you want to try and just date her. But she knew she had a good man and thats why she wants to make it work again. She did just need to go and do things on her own.. Not a big deal, She realized that she loved you and wants to be with you.

Answer 8

You guys been together for 5 years sound like you drifted apart to me.Women love to be held and told "I so love you".No matter what the reason is,You got tired of it in just 5 years.Well, brother its time to leave YOU on the corner and head down the road..I know this is not what you want to hear but,Its the Truth ??

Answer 9

Well she probably just wanted to know that she was able to live on her own and have her own things you can not hold that against her. It is nice to be able to live on your own. That is probably all it is she just wants to see if she is able to live and do things on her own. This might help you guys because you said you have to comfort her all the time well if you let her do this maybe this will help her self esteem and then when you guys do get back together or just start dating maybe you will not have to comfort her all the time because you guys wont have to see each other all the time.

good luck.

Answer 10

I think she is letting the society we live in get to her. Or maybe she wants more commitment from you? If she isn't getting commitment from you and she feels like she isn't going anywhere than she will naturally look somewhere else. If you love her and are willing to do what it takes then let her know. Pop the question even if you are engaged for a while at least she knows what will happen.

Good Luck!

Answer 11

First of all, as a woman and feminist I surprisingly agree with you.
I mean...of all the sick bastards and assholes there are in this world...when someone finds a decent person, they should really stick with him.
So she's not worth your time anymore.
No girl like that is ever worth your time, because she's toying with your feelings.
And that's coming from a huge feminist.
There are more fish in the sea.