My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 14 months. We are VERY much in love with each other and spend every minute that we can together, our time is so special and it means so much, we just can't get enough of eachother. However, my mom sees this as being unhealthy claiming that 'even married people dont spend THAT much time together' I dont know what to do to convince her we're just crazy about eachother and love being together. As of now, she has broken us up becuase of the amount of time together, I want to move out to be with him but I can't until February and I don't want to lose contact with my mom, how can I get her to see that he is my world?
2006-09-15 10:03:57 · 14 answers · asked by jeffsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get her to see it from ur point of view
2006-09-15 10:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by xxblackcrescentmoonxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone see things from your point of view. The only thing you can do is continue to live your life and hope that they realize how important your relationship is to you. If you are old enough to be moving out in February then I don't see how your mom could have the power to break you up.
Talk to your mom about the situation and just tell her that her breaking you both up isn't doing anything and that you are going to be with him no matter what. Odds are she won't change her mind, but it will at least give her something to think about.
2006-09-15 17:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath. You have time. Give your Mom a little on this. Don't burn your bridge, stand back from your boyfriend a little. If you two are really so deeply in love, then you aren't losing anything. You can bring him into the family activities. Give a little, and perhaps your Mom will give a little too.
2006-09-15 17:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by jones043088 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a doozie! Sounds like mom ain't too happy with her life. The simple answer is stop acting like a child, and start showing grown up traits. NOT SEX. Even a gerbil can have sex, but that doesn't make them responsible.
First start by giving your Mom and dad if you have one, the respect they deserve. Don't flaunt your relationship in front of them. This makes parents nervous. Next be honest constantly with them. Act like you are responsible for your own actions. Make realistic plans. And do not plan on rushing things. If it is good now, it will be good later. There should not be any rush to move things up in your relationship.
Start saying things like, I respect your feelings Mom. I may not agree with you, but I do respect your feelings.
Agree to take some time away, with the assurance that you will see them again. Agree to be faithful with your boyfriend during this seperation. But reassure him that you fully plan on being with him. Then take things slowly and stop trying to rush things. Your mom will see that your heart is dead set on being with them, and she will respect you for following her advice even though you disagreed with it.
2006-09-15 17:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by Phill Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time. She might think that you're still too young and it's hard for a mother to see her daughter be taken from another person. She really does love you, try talking to her. Try telling her how you feel and how happy you are. I'm sure she'll get over it (hopefully).
2006-09-15 17:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just look at it form her point of view and comprimise, ie, make a deal that u will only see him a certian amount, in a healthy relationship you do need time apart to know how much you mean to each other or else you will get smothered quite easily
2006-09-15 17:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Els M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your mom. I believe that everyone needs some down time from each other. Maybe she just wants to spend some alone time with you.
2006-09-15 17:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your other questions, it sounds as if your mother does not want you to be happy. She is threatened by any relationship that is not about her. If you and your boyfriend are truly in love, you can wait until you turn 18.
2006-09-16 17:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young, I felt that way about my then boyfriend, and my mom was like that. Turns out she was right about him. She was right about everything.
I'm not saying that your mom is right about everything, but moms usually have the right idea.
I don't think you will be able to convince her.
Good luck, though, I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-15 17:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,this is going to take some time,but you can do it.do you need to clean your room,do clores around the house? if so stop.don`t do anything,until your mother starts talking to you.get your mother augry with you,and she will come around.or she will kick you out ,them you can live with your boyfriend.
2006-09-15 17:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't listen to her and keep doing what your doing till February
2006-09-15 17:06:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋