We haven't really had sex yet. We been together for 1 year and 11 months.So he's become really impatient with me.
2006-09-15 09:57:38 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're really in love with each other and I'm really scared to do it.
2006-09-15 10:03:28 · update #1
THIS IS A VERY CONTROVERSIAL QUESTION! But I think I can help. When you're with someone...you know how comfortable you are in your skin with and around that person. YOU KNOW when it's something you're willing to give up. If you are in the moment and you get caught up with just doing it...it shows that you're impatient and you will only regret it. Talk about it, that it's something personal to you, and you want to be ready. You'll know when you're ready...if you wait, listen to your gut, and b e l i e v e, it does have a mind of its own. But if you overpower your gut you'll only wish you'd waited longer. If he's become impatient with you, HE is not ready for committment. Doesn't matter that he's waited almost two years for you to give it up for him, but there are plenty of other things you can do to show each other's feelings to one another. If you're just scared? KNOW that 90% of virgins who give it up are nervous...(about the pain) You will somehow still be a little nervous when you're ready, but you will know that you are...you'll just free yourself because he is the person you trust with your treasure. I hope you make the right decision and come to the bottom of his impatience. Take care and GOOD LUCK!!!. YOU have control of your body, not anyone else.
2006-09-15 10:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all Good for you for not being let into something you aren't ready for! Second How old are you?
And most importantly remember it is something you can NEVER EVER get back so be prepared to make this sacrifice for him. Only you can make this choice... If there is one small doubt in your mind, if your scared or unsure... DON'T DO IT!
If you do decide you are ready to to a nurse at planned parenthood about the safest way to do things, it can be completely confidential and your friends and family do not have to know.
www.plannedparenthood.org
2006-09-15 10:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tajuana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has waited this long, he will continue to wait until you are ready. You don't sound like you are ready yet. Do you want to wait for marriage? If you do, would you like to be married to him? If so, why don't you let him know what your intentions are and see what he is planning. It's too bad that he has become so impatient, but he will just have to keep waiting until you are ready.
2006-09-15 10:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are only 16, I assume you are a virgin?? It really depends on your personal values. I would say that he definitely cares about you since you have been together so long but if you are not ready, you are not ready. You are the only one who can answer this question. Just make sure when you decide you are ready that you are prepared as far as birth control! Good luck and don't grow up too fast!
2006-09-15 10:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait till A) you are the right age. i might say the minimum age is approximately sixteen (it unquestionably relies upon on you and him), yet I waited till i became 18 and that i nevertheless regretted it later (it did not paintings out). B) You the two believe one yet another. in case you finally end up asking something like "is this all he needs?" or "what does he quite think of of me?" then you weren't waiting to confirm to this C) you're waiting. while you're actually not mushy with him touching you, do not do it. while you're measuring in dates or weeks or w/e (as in, 2 weeks and he can touch me, 4 and we are in a position to have intercourse), then you are patently not mature sufficient to make this dedication. On an exceedingly final notice, any activity in a courting is a form of dedication. the greater severe (and exciting) the activity, the heavier the accountability of keeping the dedication will become. believe me as quickly as I say, intercourse is one thousand circumstances greater valuable while you're unique, trusting, and committed. P.S. The touching ingredient is all as much as the girl. as quickly as she desires to be touched, all she has to do is provide him the belief, and enable him have exciting.
2016-10-15 01:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by merkel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not give in just because he is becoming impatient. Make sure that this is what you want before you make a decision that you will never be able to take back.
2006-09-15 10:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead do it if you love him and you know it will work go for it girl , you should be happy he even waited 1 year and 11 months most guys won't make it romantic night roses candles and some soft music you love it good luck girl and good job for waiting so long
2006-09-15 10:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty me :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think about having sex with him any time is cool as long as that is what you want and feel comfortable with. If this is your first time you have to take in consideration your beliefs,morals etc. you don't want something beautiful like making love for the first time turned into something regretful. Love can't be pressured! you'll be ready when you are ready.
2006-09-15 10:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by jollyrancher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he become impatient with you? I thought being with someone was about loving them and giving them as much as needed to be sure about what they want to do. Obviously sex is more important to him than you.
2006-09-15 10:02:14 · answer #9 · answered by DrmRboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You havent really had sex yet? Hmmmm. 2 years? Wait till marriage, if he dumps you for not putting out, he wasn't worth wasting 2 years on.
2006-09-15 10:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by johnnylakis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋