I want to marry my gf, but neither of us want a traditional wedding. does one need an engagement ring and a wedding ring later on? can they be the same. is it wrong to propose and then go ring shopping?
2006-09-15 09:51:52 · 51 answers · asked by marshall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it is actually recommended that you ask her to marry you then take her shopping for rings...this way she can pick out what she wants and she won't feel stuck with a ring she hates.
2006-09-15 09:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Totally fine to propose without a ring, especially if the two of you are non-traditional types. And, if I had it to do over again, I personally would forgo the engagement ring and would have gone all out for a really fantastic wedding band, so that is an option too. Here are some other suggestions:
When you propose, give her one of those candy ring pops for a laugh, then let her decide what she'd like to do - get an engagement ring together or just get a wedding band.
Propose to her in close proximity to a jeweler or jewelery store you both like, then go in and pick out a ring together.
Find a cool funky jewelery designer from an art school and have totally unique rings designed for the two of you.
Best of luck!
2006-09-15 12:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by weez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong to propose then go shopping. Some women actually prefer to help pick out their engagement rings ( thats what i did!). And no, you do not HAVE to have an engagement ring. Especially if you guys do not want a traditional wedding. You guys can always look for something more unique for your tastes. Find some other way to express your committment and love for eachother. Your wedding is not about sticking to tradition but finding the way to express who you guys are and how you guys show your love towards one another. Sit down with your girlfriend and brainstorm of some things you would like to do as far as what you guys want to show your engagement. Good luck! And have fun planning your wedding!
2006-09-15 16:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by americancntrygrl03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want. If wedding plans have been discussed you can do it either way, personally I loved the fact that my now husband proposed and gave me the engagement ring all at the same moment, he chose the ring by himself; as for using the same ring as an engagement ring and a wedding ring I think you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks about it.
If the engagement ring isn't a solitaire (traditional engagement ring) but a band then I see no problem with it being the same, but she is the one who has to OK it.
2006-09-15 10:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the guy already has a ring when he proposes. You use the same ring after you get married, but some women get a wedding band to go with it (sometimes they come in sets). My fiance and I were talking about marriage. We went shopping together so he could get an idea of what I liked, rather than him pick something that I wouldn't like. He then bought it on his own another time, and surprised me with the proposal. You can do it anyway you want :)
2006-09-15 09:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think it depends on what your gf wants. When my husband proposed, we were both too poor to afford much. I didn't have an engagement ring, we only had enough to get married and buy two cheap wedding bands. That was fine by me. Four years later for my birthday he bought me a wedding band/engagement ring set, cause he wanted to see me with a beautiful ring. But I still have and treasure the small gold band he first bought me.
If she's cool with not having one, or waiting til later for it, I say it's all good. After all it's not about the ring, it's about your love for each other.
2006-09-15 09:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to propose without the ring, and yes, if the ring is special enough, it can be one in the same. But make sure that just because you may not want a traditional wedding, 99% of women still want that ring.
if you do things romantically enough, a ring shouldn't matter and shopping later works for a lot of girls so they get exactly what they want. But at the same time a lot of girls lve to see the ring that you pick out for them.
if she has a sister, mother, friend that would know what she really wants, or if you can work it into conversation with you gf, try to find out so that it is perfect for both of you :-)
2006-09-15 09:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong, Just not as exciting. You can go ring shopping together for the wedding ring. The engagement ring should be there when you propose.
2006-09-15 15:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by curiosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need one in the beginning, but I think you should get one later or go shopping together. I am engaged now because my boyfriend proposed to me from Iraq and we are going to go shopping when he comes home, but since he has proposed to me when men come on to me and I say sorry I am engaged the men say I don't see a ring so it must not be a real engagement. Men like to say women are materialistic about rings. I will say some really are, but for the most part a ring tells other people you are off limits.
2006-09-15 09:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it makes the both of you happy, there is no right or wrong way. It is traditional to have a ring at the proposal. You say you don't want to follow tradition, so do what is right for you. I know quite a few women that have only one ring, as some do have two but choose to only wear the wedding band. Everyone is different.
2006-09-15 09:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!
No it is not wrong to propose first with a any type of ring (even plastic one, lol) and then go take your gf ring shopping. Usually the engagement ring is much nicer than the wedding band.
2006-09-15 11:27:23 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋