i cant get him into a routine although ive really tried he does what he wants when he wants help please
2006-09-15 09:40:26 · 10 answers · asked by boosbecca 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Spank his butt. try timeout.
2006-09-15 09:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by thagoldengyrl01 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to stick with a routine no matter what he does. It doesn't have to be a routine where every moment of the day is laid out. Because for little kids that doesn't always work. Plus, you have to get in the habit of having punishments. It's the hardest thing we do as parents. But you need to use the same punishment every time he does some thing. You can use several different types of punishment but you need to use the same one each time he does something wrong. Example- he hit the dog-time out. Next time he hits the dog -time out. He throws his cup across the room-no more cup. Next time he throws his cup-no more cup. You can change the punishment from problem to problem just keep it the same each time that problem arises.
The other thing, is he bored? Maybe he needs to be engaged in more activities. Keep him busy and that may help. Try including him in what you are doing. Going to the store? Give him his own list of things to look for. I hope this helps...Good luck :)
2006-09-15 16:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by aerofrce1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh...you are the adult and you are in charge- not a 1 year old.
Does he throw fits if doesn't get his way? MORE IMPORTANTLY, do you give in? Ignore his tantrums and soon he'll see that his crying will not get you to budge. Many parents unfortunately are part of the problem. In terms of the routine, he has to understand this is the ONLY way. If it's bath time, then he has to take his bath. If he doesn't want to do it, too bad.! I am a teacher and I am in control of my class, by my presence, voice and the behavioral managment plan. I'm NOT having disrespect. Change the tone of your voice and be serious. I believe in spanking because, God said it's ok and he's smarter than me.
If you spare the rod, you spoil the child.
NOW GET DOWN TO THE DISCIPLINE!!
2006-09-15 16:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sam M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you except that spanking him won't solve a thing, it will only cause distrust and bitterness. It's probably just a phase. Besides, he's 1, why the hell do you want him on a routine already!? I don't know if that's even possible! There's nothing wrong with a strong will!
2006-09-15 16:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
eeek dont spank his butt! he's one year old! i'm not sure what type of routine or how much exactly you are expecting of a ONE year old, but i woudlnt expect too much.. I encourage teaching a child what NO means, and then distracting them to something else, but you cant "train" a 1 yo, i'm not really fond of putting a 1yo in time out either (unless almost 2-ish). why does he "do what he wants" ? what do you mean by that? like as in, not let you change him or put him to bed? if its simple things like that, that need to be done, step up and be the mom, dont let him walk all over you, you say, its bedtime and we're going to sleep now, goodnight.. i'm goign to change you now and thats it. not sure how a 1yo could defy you, unless you are expecting way too much.
2006-09-15 16:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mina222 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I recommend a play-pen. Seriously. These seem to be considered "out" these days, but I have a strong-willed son who was also born that way, and I swore by two things: 1) a play-pen so I could put him away when I needed a break (for his own safety and my sanity). 2) a "walker" also considered "out" due to safety reasons (by people with compliant babies).
These walkers are awesome for on the go strong willed boys, because they can provide some restraint, while letting them run around.
Oh, and one more thing (the most important): DO NOT LET HIME KNOW HE'S STRONGER THAN YOU ARE (fake it).
2006-09-15 16:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is this child? Timeouts, grounding and taking away privileges if the misbehavior continues is one solution. You might also consider asking your pediatrician what they recommend.
2006-09-15 16:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by ddandmm 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i dont know why everyone is saying that spanking causes your children to hate you, i love my parents and always have, even though they spanked me. i had it coming.
2006-09-15 16:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by kate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time for a visit from Mr. and Mrs. Spank.
2006-09-15 16:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Spank his behind (not too hare), or spank his hand and make him lay down when he misbehaves.
2006-09-15 16:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋