My Son Has Turned Into a MONSTER?

Question

My buetiful little, careing boy has CHANGED! He hits me, bites hes older sister, screams at the top of hes lungs over everything! throws himself on the floor. My older daughter had the terrible twos but he is much worse, im thinking of calling super nanny! he he! no seriously, do you think he is to young to understand if i told him to sit on the naughty step when hes been bad?

Answer 1

No he s not too young, in fact the sooner the better ,nip this behaviour in the bud. My children and grandchildren have always sat in the naughty chair for a couple of minutes to calm the situation down and it does help sort out their behaviour.
PS, Your son hasn't just started nursery or anything as he,?, sometimes that brings this behaviour on, all the best !!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I personally think that it is a bit young for the naughty step as they are very unlikely to stay there. I wouldn't use the bedroom either as this can disrupt there sleep as they start to associate bed with being naughty and don't want to go when they need to sleep. I would recommend investing in a low level, sit down chair with straps, but not a high chair. It worked really well with my daughter and we called it the silly chair as she went in when she was being silly. Put it somewhere that is away from everyone else and where nobody goes, I used the spare room or the dining room. The most important thing is to be firm, and if he doesn't apologise leave him there for another minute. Also explain want sorry means, that he feels bad for being a silly billy and say sorry to make it all better. Good luck.

Answer 3

It may sound cruel but the first and last time my daughter ever bit me or anyone else I bit her back, not hard mind you just enough to let her that it hurts and told her that it isn't nice to bite. He is old enough to be put in the naughty step, make sure to get down to his level and let him know why he is being put there. As Super Nanny says give him a warning first, then if he continues then put him on the naughty step and tell him he has to stay there for x amount of minutes(depending on age) because of his behavior. Also make sure he apologizes for it when you let him out. It will help him learn to accept the consequences of his actions. Good luck, it will get better.

Answer 4

HI, I also have a two year old son who is going through this. I use the step, he sits on it for two minutes or until he ready to say sorry. I put him straight on the step if he bites, or hits. If he is just having a tantrum I ignore him completly.

I personally do not agree with smacking but that is your chioce, but if your child hits you and you hit him back what message would he be getting.

The main thing to remember is this stage will not last forever and just because you child has tantrums etc, you are not a bad mother. Take care.

Answer 5

Hi Kayleigh

Sounds to me like your son is really stressed. This is so typical, especially of this age. 'Bad behaviour' is often the only ways kids know how to tell us they're not coping with something. Just being 2 and being a small person in a big person's world is stressfiul enough.

He is still your beautiful boy underneath and is desperate for your attention and help. I can't recommend highly enough a book by Aletha Solter called 'Tears and Tantrums' (search in Amazon to read about it). Too little space to summarise here, but this book changed my life (and my daughter's.) I learnt how to help her instead of punish her and the attention-seeking behaviour went away (when I remember to follow the advice that is!)

Your beautiful boy really has not gone away, he just needs your help to get back to his normal self and to deal with his emotions.

In short for me this means I let my daughter have a kind of 'supervised tantrum'..she can cry and rage about all her frustrations and upsets, knowing that I'm listening, not punishing her for her emotions. This means for the rest of the day she doesn't need to get my attention with naughty behaviour and as a bonus she sleeps like a log too.

HTH! Best wishes

Answer 6

It is never too early to discipline your child. It is much more difficult to change bad behavior if you let him establish the bahavior and decide that it comes with no repercussions, rather than take care of it at the outset. Enforce the Naughty Step.

Answer 7

if you dont try to stop this now it will get harder,my son is two and i use the naughty step and it works he stays there untill he says sorry and if he does the same again back he goes,your son might scream and shout but be calm dont show him you are upset an he will give up good luck

Answer 8

Oh well thats easy, everytime he does something like what you said, put him in his crib and close the door, while saying "no, we dont bite" or what ever the offence was. He'll learn eventually, b/c my son is 1 1/2 and when he does something bad now all i have to say is "do you want to go to your room?" and he immediately stops what he is doing. Being a mother is being a mother not being their friend.

Answer 9

terrible twos going through that myself but my other son was an angel at this age if my son hits me i tell him straight it is naughty and he is a brat (believe me this is down to the one on one care he has had due to illness and because he is the youngest) this goes for anything he does does your child go to nursery because my son picked up all these bad habits after he started persevere this doesn't last for ever but be firm

Answer 10

hes only going through a phase probably, yes do the naughty step thing and if it doesnt work get a book about parenting or bring him to a child thearparist