2006-09-15 09:32:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sweetie.. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles! I know it sucks being in your situation - I've been there. It's tough!
Should I forgive him? He said he was sorry! I loveee him!
Well, here's the deal. (from a woman who has been cheated on).
Forgive, yes. However... move on.
If you were married to the man, I would say different. With a marriage a couple should try to work through the first offense.
However, dear, he's just a boyfriend. He MADE the decision to go ahead and cheat. He could have said "No, I have a girlfriend I love very much"... but obviously that is not the case. If he loved you, like he says he does, he would NOT HAVE CHEATED!
He put you in danger of STD's. That is not love. (As soon as you can, get yourself tested at your local health department if you had (unprotected) sex with him since his cheating spell. Acutally, it would be good to do anyways cause he may have not been telling you the truth for a while and there could have been other girls).
If he felt the urge to cheat, just being your boyfriend, he will probably do it again later - no matter how many times he says he's sorry!
Stick up for what you want in a guy! (does that including unfaithfulness?) If you don't know what you want... this is a good time to let him loose and find out more about yourself and your needs.
All in all... Do try to forgive him. It won't help holding onto the hate you could have for him. However, make it a clear cut. No communication with him till you know you have moved on (or he has). Don't let him talk you back into the relationship! Stand up for your self and your decision.
2006-09-15 09:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Book says to forgive and to forgive from the heart... But I would not stay with someone of either sex that is faithful it's not someone you can trust. So the answer is in 2 parts;
1- yes, you forgive hime right away or it will turn you into a bitter person.
2- However, you move on and tell him his actions has shown that he did not value the relationship so he should find someone else that you want someone more faithful, honest and true.
2006-09-15 09:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
suggest to him that you want to cheat also and see what he says?? If he accepts then he really doesn't care about you. If he objects then he is selfish and still doesn't care about you. Sorry you had to go through this. Move on and find a new boyfriend. You are worth more than that. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-15 09:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Forgive him then leave. Don't waste your time with a guy that cheats. He will cheat again.
2006-09-15 09:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Laurali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forgive him. I mean he said he was sorry so that obviously fixes everything. Plus I'm sure he has a very long and big cock so you should ALWAYS go back to him. Plus, it's not like he'll do it again. And even if he does, he can just apologize and you can accept it and just continue to be totally weak-minded, and naive. Kudos to you.
2006-09-15 09:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by light08th 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if he can forgive you for setting fire to his favorite pair of jeans. Forgive you for carving you name into the hood of his car. Forgive you for calling his mother a Bit*h. Do you get the picture?
2006-09-15 09:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u just forgive with no consequences then he will only keep doing it. Once a cheater always a cheater. You wont ever be able to trust him again. I say no!
2006-09-15 09:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let me say this, I went through this SAME thing, I forgave him, then I forgave him again when it happend a second time, then a thrid.... for the most part, if you forgive him you are telling him its ok for him to treat you like crap.. I might not know you but I know you're better than that!! :)
2006-09-15 09:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by shanna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No if he cheated on you he wasn't happy with you so don't forgive him
2006-09-15 09:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every girl thinks there man is different, but they are not. If you found out on your own, then I would dump him. He'll probably keep doing it.
2006-09-15 09:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Susa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋