what can i do!?

Question

i am a 14 year old girl going to high school and my mum cant let go she wants to take me to school and pick me up from school i told her i am not her little baby anymore all the other school kids go by themselfs it will b soo embarressing when every 1 c`s my mum takin me 2 school but my dad is alright about it but my mum is not wat do i do i tried every thing she still does not let go wat can i do please help me out shes worried i might get stolen

Answer 1

First, realize that she's not doing this because she wants to embarrass you, but out of love for you.

Parents can be a pain in the b*tt ... or at least that's what my son tells me. The hardest part of parenting is learning to let go ... something we all must do eventually. You've said what you want and what you've told her, but what does she say? Are you able to talk with her about it rationally, or does she pull the "I'm your mum and that's just how it's going to be" card? Talk to her about it ... show her, through your actions and mature discussion, that you're ready for this step. Explain about being embarrassed, and ask her how she would have felt under the same circumstances.

The key is dialogue. You need to understand where she's coming from, and she needs to understand your position, as well. You're not going to convince her of anything if you come across as a petulant child. The more maturity you show, the more she'll start to think of and treat you like an adult.

I hope this helps. Blessings on you and your family.

Answer 2

Moms tend to be more overprotective than dads, but with the world being what it is, I can't say that I blame your mom for wanting to take extra precautions. Just try to be thankful that you have a mom who cares enough, because not all parents do. Try making the best of it, there's really nothing you can do if your mom insists on it.

Try to make a deal with your mom by asking her to wait in the car for you if she gets out at all. I graduated from high school a couple of years ago and honestly a lot of teens there got picked up by their folks, its nothing to be embarrassed about, and its certainly much better than walking home.

Trust me, you don't want to walk home. Had to do that for a couple years myself and it sucks. Anyway, cheer up, you'll soon be 16 and will be able to drive, and time goes by fast. I know it doesn't seem like that now but you'll get there. Anyway we all have embarrassing moments, one day you'll look back and laugh ;-)

Answer 3

My mom took me to school every morning until the time I got my own car. I was proud of the relationship I had with her and didn't care what people thought of me. Screw them! A good relationship with your mother will last a lot longer than some stupid people in high school. Your mum loves you and doesn't want anything to happen to you. You should be glad!

Answer 4

Parents love to keep their kids as their little pets as long as they can, and cannot accept them as adults. This is the age old conflict between teenagers and parents. Now you know why all teenagers hate their parents!! You need to tell her it is embarrassing you, and try to reason with her. If that doesn't work, you can always threaten to run away, or throw a temper tantrum, like most other teenagers. Teenagers can be very thoughtful and insightful, but parents are often quite insecure and unreasonable. The common wisdom of parents knowing more and being more mature is just a myth created by parents. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you mean your mom walks you to school, then you'll have to prove to her in some other way that you're a big girl and take care of yourself.

If she just drives and picks you up, it's no big.

But really, I think you're luckier than most people. I miss my mom being there when I leave for school and also when I come home from school.

Answer 6

SUCK IT UP. I get dropped everyday to and from school. It doesn't matter what other people think. Half my school gets dropped off. (1500 kids) If you really care about what other people think, then don't even go to school. Or just walk even in the rain. Otherwise, I suggest you let your mom drop you off. Its the least you can let her do.

Answer 7

my younger sister demanded that my mother give her rides to school every day. my mother was supposed to arrange her entire schedule around that girl. the other kids at school called her a spoiled brat because their parents wouldn't give them rides but she never once had to walk in bad weather or carry her own books the whole 6 blocks there. when my mother's car broke down my sister did not go to school because she *had no way to get there*. the school was close enough we could almost see it from our house but yet my sister refused to walk.

the sad part about this is that my mother never once drove my older siblings or me to school. even when i had a broken leg one icy december she made me walk to school on crutches carrying a heavy load of books every day. she also made me walk when a convicted child molester was released from prison and moved into our neighbourhood even after the school called to tell her he was following me to school every day for nearly a month. i was terrified. we all had to walk in the rain and then be punished by her later for our clothes getting wet.

we had opposite ends of the spectrum as far as your dilemma goes. i would have given anything for my mother to care about me as much as yours does about you. i would never have demanded daily rides like my younger sister but would have loved a ride when i needed one.

maybe your solution will be to meet somewhere in the middle, either literally or figuratively. she could let you walk the first half of the way home and pick you up there and drive you the rest of the way. that way the entire school wouldn't have to see you getting a ride. or you could discuss a compromise with her that you will gladly accept a ride if you're ever late, injured, have too much of a load to carry and in bad weather but that you'd like to walk the other days.

Answer 8

She's your mother and she will never fully let go, she's not supposed to. Let your school mates see that shes cares enough about you. When you grow up, it will be something to look back on and see how much she loves you. I wish I was as close to my mother now as I was when I was her baby girl.

Answer 9

Emily, with all of the child abductions happening around the world these days, I do not blame her...Listen to her she gave you birth and you are and always will be a blessing to her and your 'mum' to you.

You should see how blessed you are--so many parents abandon, neglect, and abuse their children!

Answer 10

Tell her to get you a cell phone and you'll call her whenever you're in trouble, when you get to school, when you get home, etc.

She'll lighten up eventually. Tell her that you have to learn how to grow up and be a big girl.

My parents tell me that I have to grow up all the time so if you tell them that you want to grow up on your own, they'll probably love it.