A year ago, my boyfriend and I of six months got into a huge argument and broke up. I was so distraught and basically depressed that I slept with another guy the next night because I thought I would never have a chance to be with my ex again. I continued to date this other guy for a month after my ex said that he didn't really mean to break up with me in the beginning. Soon after, I came out of my depression and realized that I still loved the first guy, so we started dating again. After a year of dating, he broke up with me because he still couldn't get over me "cheating" on him. I apoligize, but he started dating another girl. He cheated on this girl with me, and then he flipped out and said he doesn't wanna be friends with me anymore. He's blaming me for his infidelity. I still love him, but more so, I really want to be good friends with him. Please tell me what I can do so I don't lose him.
2006-09-15 09:05:04 · 6 answers · asked by Steph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Steph, I'm sorry to say this but you can't have it both ways.
1) You didn't cheat on him. He broke up with you. You rebounded. You're not responsible to him for what you did after he dumped you. So don't feel guilty about that.
2) It's not your fault that he slept with you behind his new g/f's back. Again, don't allow him to blame you for that.
If you want to be friends... you have to establish boundaries from the start and make that clear. Although with the history and what happened, that really might not be possible any more. Plus... if you had an ex... that you knew wanted you back... but you DIDN'T want to get back with... would you want to stay friends with them? Knowing that they'd just use the friendship to manipulate you into going back out with them? Well, maybe that's the situation he's in now. He doesn't trust your friendship... because he thinks you're going to use it to get him back.
So like I said, if you want friendship, establish boundaries.
If you want him back... he's obviously a jealous guy. Use that against him. Let him see you with another guy.
But talk to him privately about how that guy doesn't treat you really well.
2006-09-15 09:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really love him and want to be friends with him? More like you want him back like you originally said. Let him go. It seems like you guys are back and forth and everytime feelings are invested and this will only leave a trail of hurt feelings especially yours.You seem to want to desperately be around this guy. Leave him alone so you can be happy with someone else.
2006-09-15 09:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your legs shut in the future.
2006-09-15 09:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Richard G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gone girl.... you never should have gone bak wit him in the first place. hes using you....
2006-09-15 09:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by confused_mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard...but you will have to get over him!
2006-09-15 09:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALONE AND MOVE ON. TOO MUCH TIME HAS GONE BY
2006-09-15 09:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋