I don't understand how that is possible. I'm not desperate, but I date a lot, and nothing ever really excites me about any particular person.
But when I am dating, I am always subconsciously thinking that I might find 'true love'.
How am I going to find it if I am always expecting it?
2006-09-15 09:02:18 · 27 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop expecting it. You're wasting way too much of your life if you are always consumed about finding HIM. Relax, enjoy your life, your friends, work, hobbies and interest. Life is too short to be worrying about finding your soul mate. Relax and the rest will take care of itself.
2006-09-15 09:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really is true. I found my soul mate while at work. It was like time stood still when she walked into my workplace. I wasn't even looking at the time. I was giving myself a break from dating when she appeared in my life. Now I don't suggest that. But what I do suggest is for you to stop worrying about finding the right mate.
Think of when you were a child. How did you decide what ice cream you liked best? Did you pick the first flavor that was put in front of you? Or did you try out many different flavors first before deciding what you want in your ice cream bowl? Dating is much the same way. Before you can find Mr. or Mrs. Right, you have to go through a bunch of Mr. or Mrs. Wrongs until you know what it is you are looking for exactly. See it is not just a matter of "wow they look hot," as much as it is "Wow they make me feel good about myself!!"
So do not dispair. He or she is out there! You just have to dig through the garbage bin for a while before you can recognize them when you see them!
I hope this helps! Good luck in your search. Everyone has a soul mate. Some ppl just settle too easily!
2006-09-15 16:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Phill Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 and I used to date a lot in hopes of finding my "soul mate". Dating a lot is good for getting to know people, but I realize now that it's good to take some time for yourself to analyze what you really want out of a relationship. This will also be an opportunity for you to get to know yourself better which will help you weed out the "bad ones" even faster. Make a realistic list of what you want in a mate and refresh your memory each time you meet someone new; and DON'T settle for anything less!!!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-15 16:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shanna S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit expecting it. I entered a on line chat 11 years ago for some homework help in college and ended up meeting the love of my life. We have been married for 10 years now.
2006-09-15 16:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the problem is that you are thinking consciously, not subconsciously. Date to have a good time and enjoy the differences of others, and you will stumble onto someone you are comfortable with. Then, if you are lucky and patient, love will come.
2006-09-15 16:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Have you ever read the book "The Magic of Believing" ? It talks about - if you believe something strong enough it will come true for you. Even the bible talks about the power of faith. All the great inventions of modern society were created because someone believed it could be created. So I incourage you to believe & expect your soulmate to come into your life & see what happens...wishing you the best...good luck!
2006-09-15 16:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is true that you will find your "soul mate" when you least expect it!! So don't look for him, just enjoy the company you are with at the time, and Mr. Right will find you.
2006-09-15 16:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about it. You'll fall in love. Just enjoy the ride for now. And try to remember, even with your "true love" you will fight. There will be bad times. Chris Rock said you're not truly in love unless you've contemplated their murder. Love is work. Good work, but it is work and compromise and not quite the fairy tale ending they show in Disney cartoons.
2006-09-15 16:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Tri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I think at times it is B.S. but at times it is just hard to imagine that some of the goofballs you go out with are the "one". True love is something that happens, I guess to be honest when they come to you and there is something, then you marry, then all that other stuff comes. I am just like you, im lost.
2006-09-15 16:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by menickers US 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wanted to say. You won't find it, it will find you. However I'm an older woman and I can say that it hasn't peeped at me yet.
However some of my best relationships were ones I didn't think much of at first. Maybe that's the key, building friendships then the realization that it's more.
Good LUCK!
2006-09-15 16:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋