were thinking of getting another place together i have depression and go though lots of anxtiety i think he has it also but i really love him and i know i don't need him to live and he doesn't cling either bc he says before we broke up he did'nt have enogh space i've been married 2 xs he's never been marriedb i have 1 child and can't have more he has none are there 2 many problems or can love really conquer all?
2006-09-15 08:44:48 · 10 answers · asked by virginia m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like there are a lot of issues between the 2 of you. I don't think there is anything there though that could not be worked out between you. Follow your heart because life is too short not to.
2006-09-15 08:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by miss_nikki214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think love could conquer all. I would take a hard and serious look at both your situations. If it didn't work out before, chances are it may not work out again. I love the heck out of my boyfriend, but we just can't live together. We have seperate places and go back and forth. And that seems to keep us at a happy medium. You really need to take a in depth look at whether you two can get along living together. l have a few friends that live apart and get along great. And they have their space to escape off to if they need it. I wish things could be different for us, but I also have to face the truth, we just can't make it living together. I've been married twice, him once. My kids are grown and left home. His are entering their teen years.
And he's finding himself again, I guess. I'm just letting him have his "space." It's working for us, that doesn't mean it may necessarily work for you. But moving in together again, like I said I'd definitely take a serious look at it so you don't end up losing each other again. I have enough depression wishing things could be different with us, but they can't. So, I realize he may drift away, but at least we tried. Good luck, I hope you make the best choice on what's best for you and your child, and you already said there are too many problems. Just be careful and good luck!
2006-09-15 08:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bad news: No, love cannot conquer all. That's a fairy tale, like, "And they lived happily ever after."
The good news: You two could be a really good match as long as you don't go into it with unrealistic expectations. I have had depression, so I know from personal experience that sometimes it's very comforting to get support from someone else who is depressed because you feel like that person really understands you. Also, if you both take medications and/or go to therapy, it could be very helpful to have someone to talk with about those things. You'd also be very good at seeing each other's mood triggers and signs and calling them on it.
2006-09-15 08:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can overcome anyting as long as you keep each other's needs in mind and in heart. How important is it to him to have a child of his own? If it is something he absolutely has to have, then you might save yourself years of frustration if you just back out now. Also, how are you two dealing with the depression. i know from personal experience that intreated depression and anxietly affects all aspects of your life, but especially your home life. A person reacts a lot differently when depressed. I would suggest treating depression and anxiety before anything else.
2006-09-15 08:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by ray_hilton717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being together is good. Living together is not good for the child. You may not be fit for marriage or live-in. That's not a bad thing. Find your center first without him. Then date if you like, but don't commit to living together. Sounds like you both are emtionally dependent on an illusion. Which is not healthy when looking for someone to build a relationship. The child is first priority. Right?
2006-09-15 08:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss all aspects with him before taking this step.
In addition, seeing a therapist is a good idea, for both of u.
IF you are really serious about this, and thinking long term, ask him how he feels about u not being able to have more kids.
Is he serious about u enough to commit long term??
2006-09-15 08:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you should both be seeing therapists regularly if you want to move in together. And you should only move in together if you plan on having a SERIOUS relationship with him, especially in the interest of your child.
2006-09-15 08:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love hardly ever last, If the sex is good keep him around untill you tire of him then move on.
2006-09-15 08:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love only conquers all in the movies.....
2006-09-15 08:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, i mean really love him, go for it! ;-)
2006-09-15 08:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋