My boyfriend really is a good guy. He takes good care of me, and treats me good and everything- but what he does behind my back leads me to not trust him. He lies a lot. And everyone that knows him says he's full of crap. We've been together for almost a year. For about three months, he looked me in the eye- lied and said he wasn't smoking, when i had to find out the hard way that HE WAS. My friends warned me that he's a big flirt- slapping girls' butts, and he swore he doesn't flirt like that. But again. I found out that hard way, HE WAS. About a couple of months ago, I got onto his myspace/AIM and found out that he's been talking to the school s-l-u-t, and said "you're lookin hot in those pictures. Do you have a boyfriend?" She said no. And he said "wow. i'm suprised- you're cute enough for one." I then checked several myspace pages and found he had commented lots of girls with things like "nice boobs, nice ***, you're sexy," stuff like that. And it makes me feel not good enough. ??
2006-09-15 08:43:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say you deserve to be treated with repect and trust
so kick this loser to the curb
and find someone more truthful
2006-09-15 08:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should he trust you when you don't trust him? It's a two-way street, my friend. Confess to him that you know what you did was wrong and you are sorry. Tell him that you really do love him and don't want to lose him, and that you want the two of you to work together to rebuild that trust. It can be done if you are both willing to work on it. Good luck.
2016-03-27 02:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you already had an answer, it's just that you're not willing to accept it. This is life, either you choose to accept his lies or you decline and lead a life of yourself. No one can really tell you what to do, who to be with or anything else. Some people can't forgive the other party even for a single lie whereas some choose to live in a world of lies to deceives themselves. The answer one need to know would be there when they really ask themselves by their heart: "Can i forgive him for lying? Can i just close one eye and treat it as nothing happened before?" But overall, please remember this. What ever choice you made, it's your life and you don't live for someone else.
"There're times when you have to make a choice/decision, although it hurting/painful, you still have have to accept it."
2006-09-15 08:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Young LADY!! (This is a lecture so if you don't like lectures, go on to the next answer.) Whether you are "good enough" or not, has nothing to do with this turkey. You could be good as gold and the reincarnation of JC himself as a girl and this guy would do the same dad gum thing. You are internalizing his problems. STOP THAT! Set up your standards for how you are to be treated and require that any guy adhere to them. None of this crap about "I love him" or "he treats me well" but "he craps on me, why is that?:" They crap on you because they are creeps and think they can get away with it.
PS. If he does what you say he does, he can't be a "good guy."
2006-09-15 09:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Got Lots is right. You are denying the truth here. I think you can find someone who holds your heart more gently and considerately. It sounds like he is young and really not that mature anyway. But you are; to have noticed and understand that what he is doing to you is wrong. If you stay with him knowing it is wrong, you have to take the responibility of what happens there on out. It is your choice and no one can make that for you. I think you already know he's not good for you, aside from the other things he does that strings you along. So if YOU are questioning him, it should be clear to YOU, before it would be to any of us answering here. From my heart to yours, please, be happy. Life is too short. And you will miss the love of your life out there waiting to treat you like a queen and melt your heart.
2006-09-15 08:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tesra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is to stop waiting around for the man of your dreams -- it's time to shift your focus to becoming the woman of your dreams. Think about all the things you hope for in a husband. When the right man comes along, are you prepared to offer those things as a wife? And what if you aren't going to meet your partner for a long time - are you prepared to offer those things for yourself?
Now is the time for you to become your own Princess Charming. Develop your career. Learn to grow your own money. Get into shape. Work on your mental health. Stimulate your mind. Learn a new skill. See the world.
2006-09-15 09:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow girl, well you got some serious problem with your boyfriend. But he has been talking to chicks i don't think he knows so much. He obviously likes to commpliment them and make them feel good. If i were you, i would tell him that saying that stuf to other girls on myspace is really gonna freak them out, and then report him, and he can get himself into serious trouble, even if they don't know him. But lets say this...there are ppl there on myspace that aren't real girls, they are fake, and some are those nasty predators. Thats wrong...idk if you are good enough to him, but if he is gonna lie to you about stuff...dumb him, you deserve better.
2006-09-15 08:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmmmmm, i say dump him. =( it might be hard, but if hes doing that, then you're both not really meant to be. You could also set up a false aim/myspace account, and pretend like your some random girl and flirt with him. See how reacts, its a good way for a laugh in his face, and for extra proof of how hes a liar and a cheater. =) hope i helped
2006-09-15 08:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you came to this page to tell the story and ask about trust... It is time to cut him loose, because the situation is already bothering you enough. I would say let him be and after you get over it get a better boyfriend.. You do not need a liar looser next yo you.
2006-09-15 08:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sound like you are being used. Dump the idiot! If you are under 25 you shouldn't have a boyfriend, you should be out having fun.
2006-09-15 08:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Duane L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt sound like a good guy to me. He's not to be trusted.What more proof do u need to leave him?Move on, avoid further heartbreak
2006-09-15 08:47:47 · answer #11 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋