2006-09-15 08:42:49 · 112 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
GO AWAY!!!!!
2006-09-23 04:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by PD GAL 5 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Black People are ok. Nothing wrong with them. BUT I would not want my daughter to marry one. WHY? Because once my daughter got married to a Black man, that would end her Heritage as being a full blooded Norwegian. Her heritage and Norwegian blood line would come to a dead stand still. She would have Children , that would not be full Norwegian. I am a firm believer that no race should cross over. Or abruptly stop the Heritage line. I have traced my Norwegian Ancestors back to Kings in Norway. Way back to 1600 and then some. Our Family is all Norwegian. I want it to continue on. Not stop it by marrying a person of different race. But what in the Hell are ya gonna do? If your daughter is bound and determine to marry this Black man, then do the best you can. Include him and let him know you will include him in your Family. If my daughter was insistant on Marrying this Black man, I would do a turn about face and say, Welcome into this Norwegian Family. I would not want to loose my daughter. We would include him and treat him like a Son.
2016-03-17 21:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I am white and I am married to a black man.
There is nothing you can or "should do". What matters is her happiness and that he treats her right. Black, white, all the same thing, what it boils down to is what kind of a person he is.
There are of course cultural differences, but so are there with a white man born in europe or another continent / country.
Would you be happier is she marries a white man, reagrdless of his nationality and then what if he ends up beating her or really making her miserable? I am not saying that this can't happen with a black man, but there are many different angles that you have to approach this with then just the colour of his skin.
My parents, who are divorced, weren't thrilled about it. We are European and I have been living in Canada since I am 13, there weren't many black people where we lived, so you can imagine the shock it must have been for my parents. Today, my mom absoutely adors my husband and unfourtunately, I don't speak to my father anymore because of it. It has been 2 years now. I am saddened by this and miss him, but I adore my husband and my life is with him and by his side. No body can live my life for me, just like you can't do it for your daughter. If my mom can do it, so can you.
I hope that things work out for you two. Try putting your differences aside and give the man a chance. What you should be concerned about is that he makes your daughter happy and that he treats her right. Now, help your daughter with the wedding and support her.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-15 09:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jojo 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
First of all just let me say i have dated a black man before and i know from experience. Don't try to tell her what to do because she will do just the opposite. You need to support her and let her know that you are there for her. If she was unhappy and he was beating her everyday i might see where you would have a problem but as long as he is good to her and they love each other then you need to love them. Support is always the number one thing. You can tell her how you feel about it but don't try making up her mind for her. Good luck and I wish the three of all the best wishes the world could hold.
2006-09-16 05:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance and don't judge him by what he looks like. Would you want him to judge you because maybe your too skinny or too big? God has created us all equally in his eyes he doesn't see color he just see's our hearts and your daughter would love if you gave her fiance a chance. Who knows you might find that he is a really great person! Do you know anything about him? I would ask your daughter and her fiance out to dinner either at your house or at a nice restaurant to get to know this man who is going ot be your future son-in-law.
If you don't give this man a chance then your daughter will take sides and you won't like the side she takes! Trust me on this one! My mom always told me if I ever dated a black man then I would be on my own no matter how old I was. I never respected my mom for that, but it made me want to date a black guy just to get back at her. I didn't but I lost a lot of respect for her that day. Love your daughter and realize how special of a time this is for your daughter and give him a chance!! Good luck!!
2006-09-15 09:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Accept him, give them your blessing, and be happy for both your daughter and her man. Does it really matter that much what color he is? If your daughter is happy, it shouldn't matter.
My sister married a black guy as well. Our mom didn't like that idea too much, but she got used to it now.
I wish you 3 all the best!
2006-09-18 15:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Deniece 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. I am a Puerto Rican and my sister married a Mexican. I thought that was bad but when I got to know him more than I didn't think man he's a mexican. Just get to know that black man more. Get to learn about his background and believe me black man are awesome. I had a lot of friends that were black and they are totally funny people when you get to know them.
2006-09-20 07:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Learn to love him!
Your daughter isn't going to change her mind just because you have an issue with his skin color. And besides, would you really rather have her marry a white man who beats her? If he's a good man, what difference does it make?
I say, pick your battles...You can't win this one, so why fight it?
2006-09-19 10:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend whose mother hates other races except the white. It strikes me as odd since she has been married 3 times and had children with different white men. She lives in squaller and doesn't receive any sort of financial support nor do any of the men take interest in their own children although they live in the same town. It doesn't seem to me the "white" man has made his race proud. However, I won't blame an entire race because of a few deadbeats.
I have another friend that married a black man. He never forgets a holiday or anniversary. He bought her a 4000 square foot home for just the 2 of them. He treats her with dignity and respect and encourages her to do whatever she wants. Her fathernlaw hates him because he is black. Yet he didn't pay for the wedding and did everything to show himself to be unworthy of even calling himself a true christian. They are expecting their first child and she hasn't spoken to her father in a year. According to her mother he will be having serious heart problems. How sad for him that he is so shallow and will probably die. I hope his hate comforts him and was worth forfeiting the love of his child.
2006-09-15 08:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by AVA 4 · 13⤊ 1⤋
Hi there,
The Champ here.
U still believe in colors, lady?? Its a NEW WORLD out there! Open ur eyes! They r wide shut! Let ur daughter marry him if she loves him with all her heart! He should likewise love her, toherwise this wont b fair to the both o'them. C'oz they r gonna lead their lives together. B4 they do, let them understand each other's minds first. Convey this to ur daughter first and let her decide with a cool mind what best suits her. Dont get all hot on her if she tries to back answer u or sumthing like that. Keep ur cool and leave the rest to her! Its her life, not urs! U can only GIVE her advice, its for her to take it or not!
Take care and Njoi life!!
2006-09-15 08:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by The Champ 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I certainly hope this question was posted just to get a reaction or strike up conversation. If she is getting married, regardless of the man's ethnicity, ask her if she is happy, if she loves him, if they have planned for the future, and if he treats her like a queen. If they BOTH answer yes to all the above, consider your daughter blessed.
2006-09-19 12:13:35 · answer #11 · answered by Nola 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋