Not wishing to make a running theme of my sad sex life but I'm having trouble finishing off during sex which seems to disconcert my girl. If you're a girl would it really bother you and what can I do?
2006-09-15 08:34:49 · 34 answers · asked by rockinrobin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See a doctor and take your girl with you.
2006-09-15 08:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rhapsody 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My ex husband has this problem; the only time he can finish the job is first thing in the morning when he just wakes up, even before he gets out of bed to go to the bathroom. If he tries at any other time, it can take an hour or more. My suggestion - start going for the morning loving. If you drink any alcohol at all, stop.
That's his problem. Yes, it did bother me - because no matter what I did or how hard I worked, it took forever & all of my parts were exhausted from trying to get him offfff! & I felt like it was my fault sometimes - like he just wasn't able to do it because I didn't do something right. Go see a urologist, too, to rule out any underlying medical conditions. Good luck!
2006-09-15 08:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you can get it up it wouldnt bother me, but just talk to your girl about it. Then i would plan a night out make it romantic, and try not to masterbate for a while and then just relax and enjoy the sex.
2006-09-15 10:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by clairie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a male who has gone through puberty and cannot ejaculate when having sex with a girl then you want to see a urologist right way. Ask your doctor for a referral. Tell them exactly what you told us.
This could actually be something serious.
Best of luck!
2006-09-15 08:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Billy! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's bothering you then get some professional advice. If not reassure her that everything is satisfactory or try something different, maybe you've not found what rocks your boat. Best you talk things through and spend time sorting it out between you.
2006-09-15 08:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think as long as I had a good time I wouldn't have too much of a problem with it. But I guess I can see how it would concern your girlfriend. Maybe she feels like she's not doing her job as a g/f.
2006-09-15 08:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ME♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it bothers the girl it means that she just wants you to get same pleasure from sex.
Just tell her to relax and relax yourself. Dont concentrate on ***.. Enjoy your life.
2006-09-15 08:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by Magnetic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would probably make me feel not good enough, although I have had trouble reaching an O before too. I just tryed to not try so hard to and it just happens.
Good luck.
2006-09-15 08:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by April G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're girl may be feeling a bit self conscious - feeling that you don't love her or fancy her enough to be able to - make sure you tell her how you feel and try foreplay and maybe a bit of roleplay - fancy dress...? it may help and get you more relaxed - worrying about it will make it worse - just relax and let her bring you to a conclusion!
2006-09-15 08:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by ♣♥BabyBlue♥♣ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are unhealthy,it is a mental thing.Think of something that excites you.Also,if you are out of shape,start exercising it will make the whole process better.
2006-09-15 08:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow a girl thats concerned because a guy can last as long as she can? generally this question is the other way around :how can i get him not to go so fast because im not satisfied yet?
hmmm well she could talk dirty to you..call you names *shrug* whatever gets you going. try new positions..be creative
2006-09-15 08:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋