i have known my husband since i was 15, i am now 50. i always thought we had a great relationship, he always brought me flowers, cards just out of the blue. we have 3 grown children, all away from home now. he has never given me any sign that he wasn't happy. then 2 years ago we had a pretty good fight, not physical, but he revealed to me that he has never loved me and that he only stayed because of the kids. I was devestated. i almost had a nervous break down. it was like my whole world collapsed in around me. i tried suicide but failed. ended up in the psyso ward at the hospital 3 times. I know that it is over between us but i just can't accept it. I mean where do i go? i can't burden my kids with my problems. I don't have job skills cause i was a stay at home mom all my life. what do i do, where does it end. i went to school but they closed the doors before i graduated. i got certified in forklift opperation. but everyone wants experienced ppl; what do i do. how can i go on
2006-09-15 08:27:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be willing to relocate. Leaving not just him but that physical area might be the best thing for you. It doesn't have to be a foreign country or anything, even a different side of town or neighboring town can be just the change of venue you need.
Go where the jobs are. That has to be Priority 1 for you right now.
You'll never get over him - it's been too long of a lie and too sudden and dramatic of a crushing of your spirit - so just accept now that you'll always feel hurt by what he said. It's like a death in the family. You never really get over it; you just sort of numb to the pain.
And as for your kids. Don't feel like you're "burdening" them. If they're worth a pound of flesh they'll listen to you and sympathize with what their father said to you. I mean, you can't be on the phone to them every night about it because the worst thing to do is wear out someone emotionally so they no longer care. But you certainly should be able to rely on them to some degree.
2006-09-15 08:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lawn Jockey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you no what no one is worth killing yourself!!!my mom is in the same situation but my dad died and left her widow !! anyways thats anotheer long sad story because she dosent do anything with her time!!!Maybe you can volunteer at a HOSPITAL or any other place and gain some expierence that way.maybe you can meet people online just like yourself chat or whatever.being alone is very hard and sad.thays why im going to night school because you never know the roller coaster of life it has its up's and downs im 26 and i have 3 kids so i want to do the right thing by going to school!!!maybe you can also register on at your local workforce or babysit to get your mind off things!!Take out your grandkids if u have any!! Dont give up its not the end of the world and dont make it the end of your world! dont take it in your own hands let god be the judge!!!good luck!!You can do it!!!
2006-09-15 08:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find activities that keep your mind off things and give you a chance to meet some new people. try an art class or writing class at your community rec center. and if you want a job try a temp agency because they can place you somewhere based on your skills. you should consider seeing a therapist as well for your depression. i went through something similar (well not exactly because my ex and i weren't together that long but i had the same results with the nervous breakdown) and finding other activities really helped me get my mind off things and it made me feel a lot better.
2006-09-15 08:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is unfair for some people most of the time, as well we can say that its just like a test of faith and virtue which our Heavenly Father to his most beloved childrens.
but please do not be discourage as a doubt to yourself, though many people may consider that having a certificate in certain subjects are a great prove of their knowledge and sucess,
yet where your should know it within your own heart that you've greater skills and experience than anyone around the world,
you've earn yourself the title to be a chef, a teacher, a decorator, a nurse, a tailor, a house-keeper, a singer, a friend and the mother of your own childrens.
its not a failure but a sucess that you've did before other, so be proud as yourself as your childrens.
2006-09-15 09:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by marxice21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear you are having this issue. I think there may be more to this than he has said. Many bad things can be said in the heat of the moment. He may not have meant what he said but knew it would hurt you. I think you should try to get him to go to counciling with you, If not then go yourself. For support there are many local womens groups that will help. Contact the YWCA and ask some questions.
2006-09-15 08:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Duane L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you i really do, but i dont think ur question can be answered on Yahoo, you need to speak to a professional and there are also Divorce support groups that i think can help you
2006-09-15 08:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took care of your kids, and i`m sure they would be proud to help you out, and mad if you did`nt let them
2006-09-15 08:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by animalloverinbama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋