Yes, this is crazy. I am extremely overly attracted to my family doctor. We are both married. He is 15 years older than me. I think what started it is that he took an interest in my lack of sexual fullfillment in my relationship and made some suggestions which unfortunately made me think of him when I tried them out and now he's all I fantasize about...almost obsessively. He has no idea how I feel and I'm not planning on telling him but it's driving me crazy! I caught him totally checking my backside out when I had my back turned and could see him in the mirror. I don't think I am crazy when I say I feel some degree of pheromone activity going on between us. How can I move past this. He's really the best doctor I've ever had.
2006-09-15 08:25:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes, this is crazy, and a train wreck waiting to happen. On one hand, you could keep seeing him, and spend more time and emotion being attracted to someone you are supposed to be able to trust NOT to come on to you. There may be chemistry, but you cannot do anything about it.
On the other hand, if he is feeling attraction to you, then he has medical and marital ethics he has to abide by. If he should give you any indication that he is attracte to you (it sounds like he has, although silently), then you don't want him as a doctor.
He has too much at stake for a what might be a momentarily physically pleasant muscle spasm. And so do you. He brings out the "teeny-bopper" in you, enjoy feeling a crush again, and then remind yourself you are a married adult woman. And change doctors.
Don't lose perspective. Or more.
2006-09-15 08:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a really good doctor, I wouldn't switch to someone else who doesn't know you, why give up the best. I used to be attracted to my doctor and now I am fine, that feeling has passed. He has beautiful blue eyes and always smells so good. When he does his physical exam on me, it makes it easier to let an attractive man touch me.
I am attracted to my massage therapist and my chiropractor and we are just really silly friends now, so you will eventually get passed it, I am sure. I told my massage therapist how I was attracted to him, he had no problem with it. I am able to talk about anything with both of them, so no need to lose a good doctor for that reason.
2006-09-15 15:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by willow21pipkyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trouble! You can always talk to your doc about this or you can switch doctors. Does your husband know about your feelings? It sounds like you need to remember what brought you and your husband together in the first place. Do you still want to be married? If so I would stop thinking about the doc and go out with your hubby. It sounds like you just need more spice in your marriage. Maby a vacation would help go somewhere exotic! best of luck for you
2006-09-15 15:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common occurrence. Especially if you believe he has really helped you. Kinda like the "knight in shining armor" thing.
You do need to switch doctors. And if you really are obsessing about him and constantly fantasizing, you should also get a psychiatrist.
2006-09-15 15:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it ! And trust me the attraction is purely one sided, when you look at naked body's all day long they all start to look the same,and believe me yours is no different than anyone else's ! I can tell you that if he finds out about your obsession with him he will turn you out, and you may have trouble finding another Physician ! Besides a good physician is hard to find theses days ! So stop acting like a child and get over it !
2006-09-15 15:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a pretty common occurence to have crushes on doctors who are kind and sympathetic. So many women admit to being attracted to their ob/gyn's when they're having a baby. It all depends on how often you see him. It's really not a big deal if he's a good doctor, keep him.
2006-09-15 15:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeeeaaahhh. well...i'm incredibly attracted to my obgyn. how's that for strange? but his interest in your lack of sexual fulfillment, i don't even know how you would have gotten on this topic, would probably weird me out about our dr. patient relationship. he seems to be getting pretty close to that line of professionalism, checking you out and all. (of course, an obgyn doesn't have to try to hard to check out a woman. ha.) i don't know if i'd get rid of him as things are. be careful. don't do anything stupid and if things get any more intense i'd probably revisit my idea of switching.
***you don't really want to switch, do you? i'm just taking a gamble here but i don't think you will.
2006-09-15 15:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switch, why put yourself in this situation over and over again? There are plenty of good doctors out there. Speak to some friends and ask who they go to.
2006-09-15 15:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be able to overcome it if you keep seeing him...If you want to preserve your marriage and sanity...SWITCH DOCTORS! There's plenty of great doctors out there
2006-09-15 15:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by nice_eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋